Hi All! I'm new to the board and in need of advice. My FI and I are eloping in July. So now we want to have a wedding that is very "us" and untraditional and doesn't cost much (as we want to start a family). Our plan is to have what we have coined a "Nuptial BBQ" on a Sunday afternoon. We do NOT want gifts, but everyone wants a wedding celebration. We may even do a mini ceremony to appease some people (but will legally elope ahead of time). Our plan is to have the BBQ at a large picnic shelter (working on booking it) in a park. We will provide beer (it is allowed), pop, water and hamburgers and hot dogs with buns and condiments. My questions:
1) Is it okay to ask that people bring a side dish to share IN LIEU of a gift? Would sending a little recipe card to share their recipe make this any more palatable?
2) How do we split up who is bringing what? Should we do alphabetical or relation to bride/groom?
3) Is there anything else we can do to really make sure people do not bring gifts?
4) It was suggested that we ask people to bring their own food to grill, is that pushing it?
5) We plan on having volleyball, bocce ball, jarts, ladderball, ect... Any other suggestions?
Sorry this is SO long! I truly appreciate any and all suggestions. This is uncharted territory for us, and we really want it to be fun and laid back. Again, thank you thank you thank you!!!