So my parents got divorced when I was 6. It was hard but i was young so i didnt undertand. Then my mom and dad got remarried and I have a great other father in my life. He knows that he is not my DAD but does everything that he can to be there for me and support me like his own. My dad likes me when he wants to or when I look good (sports, career, etc) other than that doesnt really care. So i knew this was going to be the big issue in the wedding process. 1 - Who was paying for the wedding (solved, splitting it 3 ways) 2 - walking down the aisle. My plan was that my dad and I would have our moment before the church doors open, and then walk down half way. Wher my stepfather would join us and then proceed to the alter all 3 of us. Much like my life, that I had 2 great fatherly like figures in my life.
Now I know i should have asked/told my dad sooner, but knew it was going to be a big issue, so didnt do it until about 3 weeks ago on the phone.....and he got mad at me saying that he was not coming to the wedding becuase of that.
It sucked, tore my heart in pieces, and wanted just to curl up in a little ball. But then I realized (after a BIG rant with teh FI and wine) that if he wants to do that then -- I guess I know my true answer about my father. Being there when he can look good.
It just sucks bc when I was little I was a daddys girl, and now I dont even hardly talk to him more than once month.
My brother has threatened him that he will be coming to the wedding even if it is in a wheelchair, so that is good and I hope he can deal with about 5 minutes of the day that he has to share the fatherly limelight.
Any other brides have the 2 fathers walking down the aisle? Any advice?