Various Showers??

angelajtmn

There is a group of ladies who get together every month or every other month and we call it dinner club, we also happened to have all gone to the same college, even though we didn't all know each other at the same time. Anyway,  it was suggested that we have a dinner club in LasVegas as Shower/Bachelorette Party for my friend and I that are both getting married next year, me in August and her in November.  We discussed and decided to keep it just dinner club ladies. 

How do I tell this to my Maid of Honor, who is not in this dinner club, without hurting her feelings? 

I would still have a shower/bachelorette party here, that she will plan.  Am I making this a bigger deal than it needs to be?     

jennipea382

I think it's fine. People do showers differently. Some people have a family one and a friends one (in my experience, usually combined with the bachelorette party). If I were a MOH and the bride had a group of friends I didn't really know, I wouldn't be offended if they had a shower without me (especially since it's also a joint one with another friend). Your MOH can throw you another one with the group of friends she knows better.

SSaltzman87

I think it'd be okay. There are so many things people have done when it comes to showers and stuff.

graysquirrel

I don't think that it sounds like it should in any way be a slight to your MOH. If your other friends want to take you to Vegas for a party, then they have every right to and you have every right to go. Simply tell your MOH that your club friends want to celebrate a few upcoming members' weddings in Vegas as a group thing. I wouldn't even call it a bachelorette party if you think she will be offended.