invite wording...please help me!

kristigiles

OK so my parents are still married and Fi's parents are divorced.  His dad is remarried.  We are all hosting the wedding...  Follow all that?  good. 
I had planned to say "Together with their parents.."  then our names, but my mom really wants all of the parents names listed.  The question is, what is the best way to do that? Here's what I have...
Together with their parents, Mr. and Mrs. Brides parents &Ms. Grooms momMr. and Mrs. Grooms dad and stepmom
Bride &Groom
Request the honor of your presence...
OR should it be flipped around, our names first then our parents names?  Thanks in advance for your suggestions!  I'm sort of at a loss!

LittleSweetie

I think that's right - I don't think anyone would know the difference, otherwise

Veittobe

I agree, I think either way is perfectly fine.

I like putting the parents first.  But either one is great.

blondie424

I have almost the exact situation as you, all three sets of parents contributed along with FI and I paying for a good chunk of it too...it me took forever to figure out what I liked the best...you can check my bio for how we worded our invites.  GL!

kristigiles

I also think it looks better with the parents names listed first, but my mom thought our names should be first.  What about commas and ANDS between all the parents?  I thought I'd put an and between my parents and his mom, but not between his mom and dad...  UGH, this is confusing!

LittleSweetie

I wouldn't do commas after each line, but you could have a line that just says

and

before the last set of names - that can look really elegant depending on the font and justification.

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]OK so my parents are still married and Fi's parents are divorced.  His dad is remarried.  We are all hosting the wedding...  Follow all that?  good.  I had planned to say "Together with their parents.."  then our names, but my mom really wants all of the parents names listed.  The question is, what is the best way to do that?  Here's what I have...

Together with their parents, 
Mr. and Mrs. Brides parents
& Ms. Grooms mom
Mr. and Mrs. Grooms dad and stepmom

Bride & Groom Request the honor of your presence...

OR should it be flipped around, our names first then our parents names?  Thanks in advance for your suggestions!  I'm sort of at a loss!
Posted by kristigiles[/QUOTE]

I think this way is fine, but I think the more "traditional" way is like this:

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter

Bride middlename (as long as you have same last name as your parents, don't put your last name)

to

Groom middle lastname

Son of Ms. Groom's Mom
&
Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Dad


Again, I think either way is fine, but I think this way is considered more "traditional." Personally, I don't care about being traditional, but I know it's important to some people.

LittleSweetie

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[QUOTE]In Response to invite wording...please help me! : I think this way is fine, but I think the more "traditional" way is like this: Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Bride middlename (as long as you have same last name as your parents, don't put your last name) to Groom middle lastname Son of Ms. Groom's Mom & Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Dad Again, I think either way is fine, but I think this way is considered more "traditional." Personally, I don't care about being traditional, but I know it's important to some people.
Posted by emilykathleen511[/QUOTE]

<div>That presupposes that only the bride's parents are paying (and is traditional wording and traditional in financial responsibility).  It is a beautiful layout, but I don't think it quite meets the OP's needs in what it communicates.</div>

kristigiles

yeahh that wording would be kind of offensive to my fiances parents since they are helping a lot with the wedding as well...

I'm also considering saying

ALL PARENTS

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their children

it looks nice and its less complicated.  Although it un-hosts us, I'm not sure if I care...

debbieupper

I don't know about how "All Parents" might sound ... It might come off as "we've got too many to list".

I think what you had in mind first looks good, though (the way you first listed all the names).

debbieupper

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[QUOTE]I don't know about how "All Parents" might sound ... It might come off as "we've got too many to list". I think what you had in mind first looks good, though (the way you first listed all the names).
Posted by debbieupper[/QUOTE]

Okay, now that I read it again, I think I misunderstood and you didn't mean to say "All Parents".

Or maybe you did. I don't know. Sorry, it's Monday. :)

MoriaMN

I was in a very similar situation. We were doing the majority of the hosting and both of parents are remarried. I couldn't affiord the space on the invitation to give everyone a line. I simply listed it as,

In honor of love, the
<last name 1 />, <last name 2>, <last name 3> and <last name 4> families
Invite you to share our happines in this joyous occassion

izzyjenni

We went back and forth about our invitation wording also.  My parents are paying for a majority of the wedding with his parents paying for the traditional grooms side stuff and of course, we are contributing quite a bit also.  We looked it up online with mrs. manners and wedding ed. tradition and found that it is traditional regardless of who is paying to list the brides parents first because in in older times the brides family was giving away their daughter to the groom and thus, the brides parents were requesting the honor of your presence. 

The phrase "the honour (or honor) of your presence" is traditionally reserved for worship services or a wedding that takes place in a church or synagogue.

I know, however, that now it is nice to include both sets of parents regardless of who is hosting the event or contributing.  We included his parents as son of under his name.  I am still a bit torn between using the traditional or having both names first but for some reason I did not like how it sounded using both parents names first and then saying Mr and Mrs and Mr and Mrs request the honor of your preseence at the marriage of their children...to me it sounded like we were brother and sister....ANYHOW!  I am rambling, but I think your way looks nice and will mark the acknowledgement of both families.