I grew up Wisconsin-Synod Lutheran, which is pretty conservative. I have been living with my fiance for 4 years and we've bought a house together. I asked my mom's pastor if he would marry us and he won't because we live together. If we somehow figured out a way to live apart (which is ridiculous, btw), he would. Wondering if that's a common issue and how people get around it? I would like to have an actual pastor marry us, my mom seems to have a few more requirements that we may or may not take into consideration. I don't feel right lying to a pastor about our living situation...you would think that they would think differently about it now than they did 30 years ago.