Okay, neither FI nor I like the idea of opening our gifts in front of everyone, or at least whoever would show up to a gift opening the next day. I (we) would both feel uncomfortable having people sit there watching us open every gift. Besides the fact that we'll probably be getting more money than gifts. I think people would just get bored with that anyway.
FI brought up that maybe certain people would be upset that we didn't have one. Case in point, FMIL threw us a small engagement party, and I'd said earlier in the day that I don't like opening gifts in front of people. Of course after dinner, the gifts were brought out and we had to open them in front of the guests.
I'm thinking if anything, we can send the people who care a list of stuff that we got, not necessarily attaching names to it, like "We got a total of $1037 in cash, a new bedding set, and a $200 Ikea gift card, and a homemade quilt." What do you ladies think?