Who does Rehearsal Dinner invites?

debbieupper

I'm going to admit going in to this one that I have a lot of problems handing any sort of control over to FI's mom, because, well, she's a little crazy. Like, really.

That being said, here's the deal: She's been looking into RD invite ideas and wanting the list of people attending so she can get started on them. She's also planning on doing favors (which is really nice, I think).

I'm just wondering if it's normal that the grooms parents would take care of the design and all of that for the RD ... FI and I are designing our invite/std suite in Photoshop, and our "style" is 100% different than what she would choose (think pink hearts, victorian tea cups and maybe throw in some pastel 80s floral print ...).

I also could just let it go and let her do whatever she wants for the RD. What do you think?

Another thing is that she's throwing me a bridal shower in Colorado with like 5 of her friends (I've met like 2 of them). It's in August and she wants to send out invites next week (everyone attending will be in CO and the couple that don't already know about it). Is that a bit early?

dc*prep

We're taking care of the RD invitations for FI's parents (PIB), even though they're hosting the RD. Partially because I don't know whether they'd turn out hideously if FMIL did them... and partially because I'm kind of a control freak... and partially because I'm nice   However, I'm going to run everything by her first. I actually let FI choose the design of the invitations. I figure I'm kind of doing FMIL a favor, because they live in a really rural area, and she probably wouldn't have the easiest time finding invitations locally. So once I print the invitations, I'll give them to FMIL, and she can address them all and send them.

Maybe you could tell FMIL that you already have a lot of the basic design elements on your computer, so it would be faster/easier for you to make them. If she seems resistent, then you might just want to let her do what she wants. Probably not worth starting an argument over RD invitations

And yes, it seems a bit early to send invitations for a shower in August. I think 4-6 weeks ahead of time would be more appropriate.

debbieupper

Yeah, I'm a bit of a control freak myself, and I can guarantee FMIL will choose a hideous design, no offense to her. I think the conversation approach you suggested would work okay - we'll give it a shot.

BTW, I LOVE that faux bois paper you're using! Your bio says it's pretty different from your wedding style ... but it's actually really in-theme with ours! We're printing our STDs and invites on actual wood (see "Paper Trails" tab in bio).

Thanks, DC!
P.s. (Go journalism majors!)

dc*prep

Ohhh yeah... Now that I look at your bio, I remember your STDs. I love the faux bois, and Paper Source has other fun stuff, like faux bois wrapping paper, a large faux bois rubber stamp... so I'm going to play with those things and integrate them into our RD (like using the rubber stamp on place cards, etc). Paper Source is the BEST! I'm so glad they have a store here in DC

I love the pic of you and FI in your bio. FI and I are thinking of India for our honeymoon! We'd probably go next February (2011). We're thinking of seeing the Taj for sure, but then also spending time in Goa and Kerala. We'll see!

debbieupper

Oh, I'm like a kid in a candy shop at Paper Source. How is it so exciting?! I almost bought that large faux bois stamp when we were going to emboss our STDs.

As for India -- I lived and worked there for 6 months (the pic is when FI came out to visit me!). If you want my generic "OMG-you're-going-to-india-do-this-and-this-and-this" email, I'd be happy to send it to you. Goa and Kerala are great choices - I've been to both (Goa twice!) and think they're amazing. PM me if you want to chat about it ... India may not be what the typical person would love for their honeymoon, but if you're adventurous enough, it could be awesome!