how much

katiereimer

Hello ladies! Just a little curiosity question! How much are your FI's helping with all the planning of your weddings? Ive heard alot of people say their planning and doing everything themselves but my FI is helping and putting his input in somewhat so I was just curious about all you others!

ogrady88

FI has a lot of ideas and opinions, but is a little lacking on when it comes time to actually do stuff.  I've been hounding him about addresses for months!

tpender13

My FI's been doing a lot. He works in the wedding industry, kind of, so he's got a lot of connections. Picking a venue was kind of up to him, obviously w/my input. Plus he's really good at drawing/graphic design, so he completely designed our invites. And he's really good w/his hands, so he's been a bunch of our decoration type things. He even helped re-work the silk flower bouquet I made for myself.

He's probably been doing more than I have. =( Partly since he's so picky, I'm afraid of doing something wrong.

martiac225

I've been doing everything myself, 100%. He has  come with me to meet with vendors and that's about it so far.

Rebecca7911

I am doing all the work but when it comes to who we hire, he wants to give his input.

lboerner88

I tend to gather all of the information and set up all of the appointments but then he comes with me to all of the appointments and we make the decisions together. I haven't made a single decision for the wedding without running it by him first, except for the boudoir session/photos. I think that it is important that we are on the same page and he feels like it is "his" day too

wittyschaffy

Big picture?  DH didn't do a ton.  However, the things he DID do, were awesome.  DH booked the date and location for our Ceremony before he even proposed (he was pretty sure I'd say yes!).  He knew what he wanted for tuxes and went out and got pricing and narrowed down choices.  All I had to do was go in and give a thumbs up.  We picked our venue for our reception and made all the food and wine choices as a team.  music?  Flowers?  Table linens?  Invitations?  Not so much.  I'd run ideas past him and he'd give me a thumbs up on stuff I knew he wouldn't care one bit about (like flowers) but did the work mostly solo. 

bellaxanthe

Me - everything. Him nothing. He will meet with the vendors if I give him enough warning. He really doesn't care though. I had a meltdown 4 months in though and felt like he didn't care about me as a result of the not caring about any of this stuff. Seriously, he would walk out the room when I brought stuff up. And I would wait until he was in a great mood and even then limited it to once  a week. He seriously just doesn't care. He supports whatever vision I have and I've been very careful to make sure I include lots of things that are very him in it.  He did get into the music thing though.

SuperRNluvsChef

My FI has input and is excited to see what I'm planning.  He's met with all the vendors and gives his input on everything.  However, I'm the one who has found all the vendors we've met with.  I thought I'd be doing most of the DIY stuff with my mom but when I brought some of the ideas we have he asked if he gets to help.  I was shocked at how excited he is to design invitations!

leggwilliams

FI does a ton actually. I do all the research, pick out the potential vendors, and come up with the ideas. However, FI has come with to every vendor appointment, likes me to run the ideas past him, gives his input, and even helps execute some of the DIY. He's really getting into it which makes the whole experience even more fun!

brimaven

We decided together on location, ceremony, DJ, and Photog,  I think he wants to help with the cake and tuxes. The flowers I am doing because he told me he really doesn't care about that. Can't really blame him for that one. He has actually been really cool about stuff, and sharing his thoughts.

SarahKay128

So far he's not doing anything. Starting to get a little frustrated. He didn't even *technically* propose (although I do have the ring). He talks about it with me on occasion, has an opinion sometimes (that always ends up complicating things). We shall see what the next few months bring...
Good luck to you!