Wedding Drama- MOB

LoveMuffin101

Anyone else dealing with wedding drama? My mom keeps attempting to take things into her own hands and when I ask her to let me do it and that I am going with what I had talked to her about she completely screams at me and hangs up! It's really annoying my FI and myself. Just wondering if it's just me or if others are having to deal with MOBzilla's!

kkaew816

Wow, that would be annoying. I'm lucky I guess, I have no wedding drama!

veijes

My mom isn't that bad where she yells at me but she is very opinionated, we are doing black BM dresses and white flowers and she said that the BM's will look like they are going to a funeral and my wedding will be very boring looking since I'm not having "colorful" flowers. But I just ignore it, took me awhile to do that but I'm much happier when I just let myself think "it's our wedding, not hers, we are doing things the way we want and envisioned them."

Bimbi284

My MOB has her opinions too...but like Veijes, I just let it slide. I tell her that we are going with this, and that's it. Sure she gets a little miffed at times, but she'll get over it, lol. Bottom line, its not her wedding. If she wants to be a part of it and help out, than she can do so by helping you with what YOU want to do.

andreaadam

My mom is also very opinionated, especially about the guest list. I have found that giving her small tasks to look into and finding props for our photobooth has helped. I still have to gently remind her that if she wants things a certain way she can always renew her vows, but that I have envisioned things a little differently for my wedding. Good luck!

MoriaMN

My mom is always expressing her opinions for decor, music etc. I usually just brush them off. I was stressed out about them at first, but then I just realized it was her way of expressing her excitement. See if you can channel her energy towards a couple of "approved" projects.

LoveMuffin101

Thanks for all of your input! I will take your suggestions and attempted to nix the drama!

ssminy79

My MOB has been offering advice a lot too, but I have found that giving her tasks really helps. Are you the only daughter in the family?  I think that is part of our 'issue'-she just wants to be part of the planning process-and she is like 5 hours away...so giving her tasks has really helped her feel like she is wanted.

Good luck!

babybrd182

My mom isn't the one causing problems, it's my FMIL. FI's parents are divorced and his father married a much younger woman (I got no beef with her- they're actually great for each other) and they also have a lot more money than FMIL does. Unfortunately when FI's younger brother got married, he was living at his dad's house and they helped him out a lot because his wife was still living in the Phillipines. Needless to say, I heard all about "when it's your turn I want to help out all the time!"... blah blah blah. I'm glad she's eager to help, but when I don't include her on every little detail RIGHT after I decide, she jumps down my throat. Uuuuugh.

Ok, rant over