Sister Drama

kristinane

Am I overreacting by thinking that my sister planning a March destination wedding and August reception is going to interfere with my June wedding?  Both of my sisters thinking I'm being a "bridezilla" because I think it's inconsiderate timing on her part and they say it won't affect my wedding.  I'm a big mess over this!

I Want Cake

All 3 of the events are more than 2 months apart, so I don't see what the problem is.  It'd be something else if they were the same month, but they're not.

kaylas16

I totally understand where you're coming from, I would kind of feel the same way, maybe feeling like she's stealing some of your thunder and excitement by extending her events to the end of summer.  But like PP said I don't think it should cause any problems at all with your wedding with how spaced out all the events are.  But yeah, I completely get your feelings!

Clare13

Having just finished my June 25th wedding I have to tell you it will be fine.  My sister originally planned her wedding for Jan. 2, 2010.  She canceled it 3 weeks before the wedding.  Talk about drama.  She has now rescheduled for Oct. 2, 2010.  I have to say we are a little under a month after our wedding and if I was concerned she could be having hers anytime.  That means our weddings are just over 2 months apart.  We are both the MOH for each other. I promise that it seems like it is a big ,but I can tell you that it will be fine.  How wonderful it is that you can share the planning and excitement with your sister. 

hkiesling

You get a wedding day, not a wedding year.  Two months between all the dates is more than enough time for guests to shift their focus back and forth.  Will her destination wedding even have that many of the same guests?  Those are typically much smaller than a regular ceremony.

wittyschaffy

While I understand how you feel, I think that you're reading too much into things and should let it go. 

newlyseliski

I can understand... my younger sister got engaged 6 months after my fiance and I and are getting married 6 months before us.  We don't necessarily have the overlap issue, but she never once even thought of asking if we minded that they are planning their wedding before ours.  They've been dating for only a year while my fiance and I had been dating for 3 1/2 at our engagement.  We weren't going to make them wait until after us, but it's frustrating nonetheless at their lack of consideration.  I guess it's a sister thing, eh?  I feel a bit selfish not wanting to share the preparation and have the special day to myself... I know her celebration is enough of a distance from mine, but I can understand the feeling.  I like hkiesling's advice

kristinane

Thanks for the advice and setting me straight.  I guess I was just concerned that she wouldn't have time to "be there" for me as  a BM or MOH if she was busy planning her own wedding.  But I guess we'll work it out.  And Clare13 is right...it will be a lot of fun to plan together!

Clare13

Plus I can not tell you how many good deals we were able to get by booking 2 weddings with the same vendors.  We of couse made the choice individually if we wanted to use the vendor or not.  We are using the same florist, photographer and church.  The approach we took was not an amount off the final price.  What we did was set a price for one of us and then asked for what "extra's" we would get for booking a second wedding with them.  The florist threw in quite a few extra flowers and the photographer gave us more hours and a deal on parent albums.  It worked for us.  Good luck, we really did have a great time planning together. 

drdifabio

I also just wanted to pipe in and say that I understand where you are coming from. I had the exact same feelings as you when one of my best friends got engaged and was looking at wedding dates right around mine. We talked about it just to get it out in the air and she ended up picking a wedding date two weeks after mine - so not even months - weeks. And I am actually 100% fine with it now although I wasnt originally. It has been awesome to be able to plan together and she truly understands what I am going through as I can understand what she is going through. It is actually harder on our couple of BMs that overlap as they have two weddings with dress/shoe/hair costs within weeks of each other, but my friend and I are just trying to keep costs down for them as much as possible and it is working out really well.  

LauraK17

Why is she waiting 5 months to have the reception?  That seems like a really long gap in between.  But I agree with PPs that the timing shouldn't affect your wedding!

elizabethandandrew

Wedding planning can be stressful and I think it's easy to lose perspective that it is a wedding DAY like hkielsing said. My best friend got engaged just a few months after myself and her wedding is 2 month after mine- and I'm thrilled about it! It's been great to have someone that I am so close with going through the planning process and being able to share the experience with, talk wedding planning (because lets face it, people not involved get sick of hearing about it), and vent to!