For those of you who havent seen my intro post, I am new to the boards. Im helping my friend plan her wedding. But this is a totally different thing. Just a little backround: My bf and I have been dating for almost year now and have looked at rings and have already discussed innumerable times about how we are going to get married, blah blah blah. Well anyway, I go to school four and half hours away from him and its been incredibly difficult. He told me before school started in the fall that anytime I needed him, he would come up here in a heart beat. He has been up here one time, early in September. He does seasonal work and therefore had to work on weekends too so I started to come home to see him. Not really a problem. However, it started with my bday in October, on Duck Hunting Opener. For the month prior, he was talking about how much he had planned for my bday, dinner at a really nice restaurant, spending the entire day together, going shopping... well, I was driving down for the dinner (night before my actual bday. Couldnt celebrate it the night of because he was leaving then to go to hunting), and he calls and says hes really tired and needs all the rest he can for hunting so he was CANCELING the dinner he was bragging about for a month for freaking hunting. That was bad enough, then the next day he worked on his hunting crap the entire day. So throughout the entire fall, he was hunting every day, never taking the time to come up here no matter how many times I practically begged him to. Winter break was good. He said things were going to change. Now, I asked him to come up last weekend a week ahead of time and he seemed excited but hmmed and hawed till the last possible minute till the storm was coming and decided not to come. Even when the weather and the roads were fine mid-day Friday. I told him that I am done inviting him up here. I was LIVID. He ice fishes every day now. He tells me how much he misses me every day but he doesnt do anything about it. He knows how much it bothers me. The way I see it is that he doesnt care enough to take the time and I told him that and he gets really defensive and tells me that its not like that, blah blah blah. Im just tired of feeling like he cares more about how he feels and what he wants then how I feel and what I want. I love to hunt and fish and stuff, so its not that I hate or dont like what he is so passionate about. How can I get him to see what hes doing isnt good for our relationship? Or is it me? Am I doing something wrong? Advice please.