Hey everyone, I am usually a lurker on this board and have never posted...BUT something I heard on the radio recently, really struck a cord with me. Did anyone hear the "How Will They Take It?" bit on the Dave Ryan in the Morning Show this week? Well it initially aired last Friday...but it was about a Twin Cities bride named Melissa. Melissa called in the radio show to go on the air and tell one of her bridesmaids that she is kicked out of the wedding basically because she's overweight. Well Melissa said more than a few times she's not "kicking her out" but telling her that she has two months to lose weight OR ELSE she cannot be in the wedding. I was SO APPAULED by this and I seriously could not focus that day at work because I was so angry with someone I've never met.
I thought I'd post here to see what other people thought only because Dave Ryan had said he'd gotten a few (very small percent, but still) that said they understood where she was coming from. I'm sorry, but I think this is the most shallow thing I have ever heard. Who the heck cares if you have a heavy bridesmaid?!!! How does ANYONE have the guts to tell someone else they will "ruin" pictures?? Being that everyone on here is either a bride to be or a bride, I'm hoping to hear people's insights.
I know wedding planning is stressful, but since when does it give anyone permission to be mean and hurtful?? I have been a bridesmaid many times and thankfully all of the brides have been beautiful human beings. Their wedding was about the love they shared with their groom and the people they are sharing their day with. And the bride usually asked us to stand up beside them because we loved them and they loved us. Not because we look good in a dress. Why even have bridesmaids then? Why are weddings becoming a Broadway Show??
Now don't get me wrong, I hope my wedding turns out beautifully. I think about the flowers and the dress and what not. BUT it's not the most important thing in the world. Who cares if your groom has 6 groomsmen and you have 4 bridesmaids? It's not about symmetry, having people stand up for you used to mean something. Don't NOT ask someone to be in your wedding because your groom can't think of another groomsmen to ask. If they are special to you - why not??
I've read some posts on here about brides complaining about their bridesmaids and it just breaks my heart....your bridesmaids are not financially obligated to you. They shouldn't have to pinch pennies, go on diets, or anything else to be in YOUR wedding. I think some brides are losing sense of the big picture. Is it just me?? What does everyone else think?