Eff it, I need a bridezilla moment... (long, bratty and vent-y)

prideeinpynk

I need to vent this. FI doesn't understand...

On my club board, there are girls having their 2nd and 3rd bridal showers. There are girls pissing and moaning about how theirs weren't perfect.

No one is throwing me one. At all. And I am extremely hurt by it.

Now, I don't even care about the whole gifts portion of it. The thing that I'm sad that I'm missing out on is the experience; being able to get together with all my girlfriends and female family members, and spending time just being girls and celebrating!

It would be one thing if we weren't planning this wedding for almost two years. Then I wouldn't expect anyone to throw something together. I said that I didn't want a destination bachelorette party and I didn't get one - that's fine. But I've hinted that I'd love to do some sort of bridal get-together (aka: a shower), and it seems like no one cares. No one cares that this is my ONE WEDDING! I know no one should care about this wedding as much as FI or I, but is it so hard to show that you care even a little? These are things I'm never going to get to do again, and I am missing out on them...

We didn't get an engagement party, whatever... I'm still sad about that but I understood, because at the time we were living in New Orleans with no friends and family anywhere close. Even though we still aren't near a lot of family, is it too much to ask to have something maybe the wedding weekend? We've got Friday when everyone is going to be here!

I won't press my family or friends for it, but it doesn't stop me from being a little heartbroken.

*sigh* I hope this made sense at all, and thank you for a little compassion and understanding for my bratty behavior.

dazed2confused

no you are allowed to vent abt it.  For the longest time i didn't think that i was going to have a b-party or a shower.  No one was stepping up to the plate, and i felt horrible abt it.  I have a friend who has had 3 shower and a b-party and i was jealous that the people in her life cared that much.  Its okay to vent abt it.  

Have you talked to you mom abt it at all?  My mom was able to talk to people w/o it being awkward like it would have been if i did it.  My aunt ended up stepping up to the plate, and i was/am very grateful.  

prideeinpynk

I've mentioned it to my mom, but nothing ever happened with it after that. She has been busy with her own issues and such, and at the time she had told me that she never had a bridal shower. So... I think it was a dead end. And I don't want to come off as pushy about it so I'm afraid to say anything more.

But thank you

dazed2confused

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[QUOTE]I've mentioned it to my mom, but nothing ever happened with it after that. She has been busy with her own issues and such, and at the time she had told me that she never had a bridal shower. So... I think it was a dead end. And I don't want to come off as pushy about it <strong>so I'm afraid to say anything more.</strong> :( But thank you
Posted by prideeinpynk[/QUOTE]

<div>i feel you there.  I felt very guilty that i was 'asking' for a party.  It just didn't seem right to me. </div>

prideeinpynk

So, this kind of cheered me up a bit. Fi and I were IMing eachother and I mentioned it to him how I posted on here so I wouldn't bother him about it... idk, circle logic because I'm upset I guess... anyway:

David:

i will throw you a bridal shower

David:

put on a cheap dress that you don't care about, and then get into the shower

i will throw confetti into the shower

Me:

hahahaha

David:

and then when you get out, i will give you a gift certificate to olive garden

then we can play Battleship

that about covers it yeah

Me:

I think that is the best idea I've ever heard

minus me wearing a dress in the shower

David :

okay

regular shower

and i will still throw confetti in

that is the important part, chrissy. bridal SHOWER

god

trey&angel

Reading your FI idea made me laugh!

dmlk413

Oh Chrissy, you are not being a bridezilla!  I am so sorry that no one is throwing you a shower.  You can go to mine in my place if you want!  : )

kwagner1211

Chrissy, I'm so sorry you aren't getting a shower. My family waited until the last minute to do it and I was sad thinking I wouldn't get one either. I hope you do, but even if you don't, you are very lucky to have such a caring fiance!

casies683

Everyone is allowed to vent a little around here! Your FI might not completely understand, but he sure seems supportive - and funny - so hang in there.

Blondnette

Well, at least David was willing to "throw" you one.

I'm so sorry Chrissy. I would also be disappointed if I didn't get one either so don't feel like a bridezilla. It's like you said, it's just a part of the experience and you're missing out on that. Maybe since you said you didn't want a destination b-party, they took it as you didn't want anything?? 

prideeinpynk

Thanks for the support ladies. David makes me laugh, so I guess that's why I kinda like him at least a little. ;D

Maybe they are really just waiting for the last minute. IDK, but it's just that everyone's so wrapped up in their own things that it doesn't SEEM possible that anything is in the works. Who knows... maybe my MOH will turn out to be a great last-minute party planner.

I can't help being jealous, but thank you for understanding! I knew I could count on you all!

steffydolly

Your FI sounds like he's got the same sense of humor as mine.

Like other people have said, I didn't think I was going to have a shower or a B-party either. But then about 2 months from the wedding (near where you are now). My aunt called to tell me she was throwing one. A few weeks after that the church I go to called my mom and said they were throwing one for me. Then about three weeks ago some of my friends from OK teamed up with my MOH and decided to have a small b-party for me here. I'd wait it out

whitneykaye87

I'm sorry it doesn't seem like anything is in the works.  I would be disappointed too.  In fact, I was for a while before MIL called to ask if "I would mind her throwing me one."  She didn't want to step on anyone's toes or take a job that someone else wanted.  People get weird about stuff like that.

At least your FI is understanding.  He sounds like a funny guy!

engutshall

Oh Chrissy, I know exactly how you feel.  I didn't think I was getting one either.  Then my aunt decided to throw one for me in Iowa with family.  Then two of my friends (one of them not in my bridal party) heard that too and they've decided to throw one which it looks like only three people will be attending next weekend (the two throwing it and my mom...haha).  It's an awkward thing, you want one but you don't want to ask.  

I know the post you are referring to and it definitely received an eye roll from me.  There is another one today about invitation envelopes being licked and subsequently "ruined."  I've noticed more and more that as our tickers move across our posts towards the right side people are becoming a bit ridiculous.  

You could try to say something to your mom again, subtly, about how you are slightly disappointed about not having one.  Or maybe to a friend?  I'm sorry that you have to feel like this.  You can always fall back on David's idea.  I'll even tell him the place to get bridal confetti.  

*Hugs*

maiyae

I'm so sorry that you right now you aren't having a shower but who knows someone might step up the plate - there is still time.  'll be honest I'm very nervous about mine because I don't like being the center of attention and the whole gift thing. 

I hope that someone decides to throw you one even if it is small but you do have a great fiance and that is the most important part.

chyleina

your FI is badass.
and so is battleship.