Since we are talking about thank you cards...

redjellybean128

What's the proper etiquette on sending them out for wedding gifts received before the wedding. We recieved two today, both from people that are attending the wedding. Do I send a thank you now, or wait until after the wedding? We were planning on having thank you cards made with a wedding photo, so I'd prefer to wait, but do have some generic ones I can send in the meantime.... thoughts?

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Eh. If you're doing the photo it's hard to say. Personally, that's why I'm not a huge fan of photo thank you cards. While they're really pretty and nice, I personally hate when I send a gift ahead of time and then don't hear if it was received/appreciated/damaged/anything for months. So, I'd personally send it now. At the moment, I'm giving myself a week after receiving a gift to send a thank you - that's my personal goal. I know that plan will get delayed after the actual wedding/honeymoon, but I'm still going to try to plow through as fast as possible.

However, I think etiquette technically dictates you have 2 months to send things out.

[Deleted User]

Send the thank yous immediately so they know that you got the gift!

Unfortunately, getting thank you cards made with a wedding photo is a bit impractical, since turnaround time from photogs is generally 8 weeks, and the thank you cards should be out by 3 months at the very, very latest. (ETA: The other von is right, 2 months is the standard timeframe, but 3 months is acceptable.)

You can do something like take a picture of your invitation with your rings on top of it or something, and use that. That's what I did (with the bouquet, not the rings--since we didn't have his at the time), and I love our thank you cards.

You can always send out announcements later with a wedding photo, or save them for your Christmas card.

dani1361

I bought thank you cards with my new ast name, didnt even think about getting gfts before hand. But Ive received a few gifts early that i believe are shower & wedding gifts combine since they were a bit expensive. So im sending out the blank simple thank you cards from my shower, and then ill be sending out another with our name on it. That way they know i received it and love it, and after the wedding, theyll get another one. That way you cover your butt and theyllstill get the cute thank you from the wedding!

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[QUOTE]But Ive received a few gifts early that i believe are shower & wedding gifts combine since they were a bit expensive. So im sending out the blank simple thank you cards from my shower, and then ill be sending out another with our name on it.[/QUOTE]

<div>I mentioned something to my mom about sending out thank you cards to those that came to the wedding even if they didn't give a gift and she thought that was silly. But I don't think a thank you is ever improper, even if it's just thanking someone for sharing a special day with you. </div>

redjellybean128

My photographer's turnaround time is 4 weeks, so I was planning on printing them off right away and that's really only 2  more weeks after we return from our honeymoon, so we'd still be in the proper 2 month timeframe - we will  have the rights so could do through Walgreens or somewhere similar with a relatively quick turnaround.

I think what I'm going to do is pick up a small package of nice thank you cards to cover the gifts that are coming in now. I'd use my left over shower thank yous, but both of these people were also there as well (and will be recieving them this week) and my thank yous are kind of shower specific too (just my name is on them). Then maybe resend them another card when i have the photo ones back.

dani1361

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Since we are talking about thank you cards... : I mentioned something to my mom about sending out thank you cards to those that came to the wedding even if they didn't give a gift and she thought that was silly. But I don't think a thank you is ever improper, even if it's just thanking someone for sharing a special day with you. 
Posted by von1976[/QUOTE]

It may be a bit silly, especially with postage, but i think it is the best thing to do