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tokyolondon

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tiny speck

I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately, when you are a couple from different countries it will always be impossible to have the ideal wedding with everyone there that you want, because international travel (especially across the Atlantic) is just plain expensive, no wa around that.

My situation is a little different, but I still think I can relate a bit. I am Canadian, my FI is American, and we met while studying in the UK. We have lived here for 4 years (it's our home at the moment and we have good friends here), and our families in North America live on opposite sides of the continent too. So no matter where we have our wedding, about a two thirds of the people we'd like to be there will have to make a major international trip. Because of that, we know the wedding will probably really end up being a small affair, mainly immediate family (and I'm not even sure my own father will be able to come).

Anyways, I understand how frustrating it is. Your FI's family is probably having a hard time adjusting to him moving to America, and then to have the wedding there on top of it--to them it *may* feel like a lose-lose situation. And honestly, if it would give you more peace of mind and be easier to elope, then by all means rearrange your plans and do that! Good luck!

erbear84

A friend of ours recently had two ceremonies - one in the UK for his family and one here for hers.  While I'm usually against second ceremonies like that, this one was pretty cool.  The minister at her church kept pointing out they were already married, though, and that her husband was agnostic, though, which was awkward!