So when we got engaged FI and I asked his cousin (2nd grade) if she wanted to be a jr. bridesmaid. We actually asked her mom because the cousin has social issues but we wanted to be polite and ask. The mom said it would not be a good idea because of her anxiety issues but thank you for the invite. Fast forward to now and FMIL tells me that her sister changed her mind and wants the cousin in the wedding. I know it is the right thing to do to let the girl be in but I can't handle all of the back and forth drama. They said we will buy the dress and if she wants to walk she will. I don't know if they understand that will involve a bouquet and such. I think I will pick a dress and just eat the bouquet cost. I mean if her parents want to spend extra money on a dress she might never wear it is their decision. Right?
P.S. (I should add there is a good chance she will freak out about the amount of people there and will not come to the wedding at all.)