My poor Fi :

RickandSteph13

So, we are a month and two weeks from our wedding dayApril 20th and so far Fi's dad and step mom are the only people coming from his family AND friends. There are a few that won't know til later because of work schedules but those are his close friends. One of his brother's might come, one just hasn't even given us any kind if response about the wedding and his sister just refuses to come. She's just a bit ridiculous tho and told us when we started planning that she wouldn't come unless we had it on her turfTexas. Anyways, we haven't heard crap from his bio mother or step father and it wouldn't be a big deal if it wasn't a destination type wedding. Everyone will have to travel at least a couple hours. We understand if people aren't able to come but for our parents we gave them over a year to plan because non of them live near us so we knew they would have to travel. Why havent they saved up or made plans?? I feel like they've had plenty of time and I just feel so terrible for my Fi.

mabapunta

That's definitely horrible. It's definitely hard to not take it personally when you tried to be so accommodating in the first place. Does your FI and his family ever really talk? I mean, is there a possibility that something else is going on?

RickandSteph13

They talk. Most of them are just incredibly selfish. They want him to visit and do the traveling 100 of the time but can't do the same. And his bio mom, well she is just incredibly unreliable. She has been his whole life. So I guess it shouldn't really be surprising but you would think at some point people would change. And u would also think a close family members wedding would be a special occasion that they would try extra hard to be at. Makes me wanna punch them lol. My best guy friend is throwing his bachelor party because we can't depend on any of his friends to come, if we did that he might not get one.

mabapunta

Well, I totally agree that it blows. Especially that they won't man up (or woman up, whatever) and commit to supporting you both for your special day! Sounds like you have chosen your own family members who really do support you tho - your friends and the relatives that have responded. You can only do so much - you've definitely done your part! Hopefully they'll change their minds soon and make it definite!

ChiGirl2013

I feel your pain.  FI's sister is the only one coming from his family, and none of his friends are coming.  The whole wedding will basically be my family and 2 of my friends. I feel SO bad for him.  He says he doesn't care, but how can you not care that your dad isn't there and none of your friends are there? 

I'm just going to make extra sure that we spend lots of time on our honeymoon doing things that FI likes to make up for the wedding day.  I don't really know how else to make up for it, but I can definitely try to put an extra big smile on his face by making sure he enjoys the honeymoon.

adawn1981

: people suck. That's too bad. At least he gets to marry a sweet woman!

RickandSteph13

Thanks ladies!  I talked with him about it last night and I really do think he's hurt by all this. Although, he says that this is how it's been his whole life.  Everyone else's birthdays were important and they got parties and he only got one that he shared with another brother.  His birthday is July 4th and he is the youngest of 5 siblings. I guess they just didn't have time for a 5th kid. WHen he was in the marines and deployed to Iraq both times he didnt hear from any of his family.  Not one letter in two years, not even when his aunt died.  Nothing. IDK I dont get it.  But there's nothing I can do but support him on our day and surround him by my family who loves him like he's their own blood(sometimes I think they like him more than me lol).

PS~ He says it doesn't matter who comes or who doesn't as long as at the end of the day we are married.  I think I got a winner )