Grooms Cake

lpowers1118

So I'm not very familiar with this idea at all.  However, all anyone keeps telling my FI is that he has to have one.  Can anyone fill me in on this thing that I have never seen done.  The only thing that I understand, or what he has told me, is that it is supposed to be a representation of what he likes, IE: a gold club or baseball or something IDK   yikes

ChiGirl2013

They are definitely NOT necessary!  I've never been to a wedding where they had one, and I've been to plenty. 

Usually, the groom's cake is chocolate, while the "bride's cake" (ie the wedding cake) is usually white with yellow/white cake.  You only need to order big enough cakes for everyone to have 1 piece between the two.  So if you have 150 guests, you can do 100 servings of wedding cake and 50 for the groom's cake. 

I know groom's cakes are very popular in the south, and since we're doing a wedding in Georgia, I was toying with the idea of getting one.  Our wedding is so small, though, that I may serve it at the rehearsal dinner instead.

LuckyGirl1713

it is definitely not a thing you must have.  i however do plan on surprising my fiance with one the night of our rehearsal dinner.  i'm doing a firetruck since he is a firefighter.  it's going to be small but i know that he is oging to lov elove love it!!

joheryl

I love the idea of surprising FI with a grooms cake at the rehearsal dinner!

erbear84

Yeah, I've never seen it done at a wedding before.  I'd like to get him a cake for the rehearsal dinner, though.  

Christine9866

I agree with PPs, it is def not a must...I also have thought about surprising FI with a cake the night of the rehersal dinner. FI loves to bass fish, so i was going to go with that kind of theme.

lpick21

I'm from Texas, and have never been to a wedding WITHOUT a groom's cake! But now that I live in DC, I hear from a lot of people that they haven't heard of them. (blasphemy! ha.)

But yes, the groom's cake is a less tradtional, less frilly cake that represents the groom. That also allows you to use another flavor, like chocolate. I've seen a lot of sports teams on grooms cakes, but have also seen a Miller Lite bottle! We're doing a 2-tiered choclate cake and putting a small Washington Nationals helmet on top. (Apparently with logos, you have to have permission to re-create, so it's easier to just get a prop that was presumably paid for.)

In my opinion, since most weddings tend to reflect the bride's taste, it's nice to have that 1 thing that is uniquiely his. 

jls522

My grandma (born and raised in IA) made groom's cakes for all of her sons-in-law that were presented at the wedding. For my generation, she made them for the grandsons and grandsons-in-law and we had them at the rehearsal dinners. Since she passed away, my mom has continued the tradition with a storebought cake, but we still have the groom statue that my grandma always used

orangehills

I've only seen a grooms cake at one wedding. But it would be cute for the rehearsal (an affordable one!) as the dessert!

jesslynn1012

I've never seen one at any weddings that I've been to, but my mom (who makes all my family members cakes and is making my cake) is excited about making my FI's groom's cake.  She is not as "girly" as me, and she loves the Lakers, and WWE wrestling like my FI, so I'm sure she is going to incorporate one of those into his cake.  We will have it at the reception.  I want my wedding super pink and frilly, and my FI is fine with that, but he will get his cake:)

lamoeller

I've been a bridesmaid something like 6 times and have 4 siblings, so I've been to lots of weddings.  Pretty much every one I've been to (at least in MN) has the groom's cake at the rehearsal dinner - aka the groom's dinner.  I thought it was common knowledge or tradition everywhere, but apparently not so -- my fiance had never heard of it and he's from Wisconsin! 

We googled it and the legend behind it is that it's usually cut and sent home with guests and single women sleep with it under their pillow, bringing dreams of their future groom.  Cute history, but definitely not a necessity from what I've encountered!

ChiGirl2013

I was always told that it was the wedding cake you were supposed to put under your pillow. lol  Goes to show you how things vary - and Chicago isn't all THAT far from Minnesota.

lpowers1118

Wow! I never knew this was such a tradition all over.  I like the idea of having it as a surprise at the rehearsal.

Erbear: maybe we can bring this trend to the 'Burgh ) 

eddiesgirl11

As a 'burgh girl myself I must say that we do cookies, and that will never be replaced! It is not a Pittsburgh wedding with out the cookie table. I have actually read a forum on the knot here in the grooms perspective about the groom cake. It was very funny. It basically said why bother ? I disagree and think its cute. My cousin did one Nd I'm Thinking about it too!!

broodc2

Grooms cake at the reception seems to be more of a southern tradition.  I grew up in Philly and am getting married up there but we have both lived in North Carolina for 7 years now and we love it down here.  It's definitely "home."  I went to college in the south and have been to many friends' weddings.  The southern friends have all had a grooms cake at the reception. 

We're brining a little bit of our new home traditions back with us for our wedding by having a groom's cake at the reception.  As the groom, I don't have a clue what it will be but they're typically reflective of the groom's taste.  My fiance knows me well so I'm really hoping for something having to do with the Eagles or maybe my college.