What are you LEAST excited or worried about?

ChiGirl2013

I've been sitting here thinking about all the great things that we're doing for our wedding, but I can't help but focus on a few things that I'm not too keen on.  Is anyone else feeling like this?

For example, I asked my youngest sister to be my MoH when we first got engaged..... almost 4 years ago.  Since then, she has TOTALLY changed and I really regret asking her.  However, she has a BAD temper and she drinks and she has gone so far as to break windows, destroy cars, and rip doors off hinges when she's mad.  I WANT to tell her I don't want her as my MoH anymore, but I honestly fear her wrath, not to mention her ability to ruin my entire wedding day with her temper. So I'm stuck with her, like it or not.  Plus, she'll be bringing her deadbeat boyfriend - who we're all pretty sure is a drug dealer.  It's just a ticking time bomb waiting to happen.

My family is also NOT excited about the fact that we chose a destination wedding.  A lot of them arean't coming, even though I know they could afford to, because they feel I should be married in the Catholic Church with a hotel reception like a good girl.  (The Catholic church won't recognize our marriage unless we get married INSIDE a church, so to the family, I may as well not even be going through with all this.)  The ones that DO come..... I just hope they can fake a smile and MAYBE even have a little fun.

Anyone else have anything they're worried about, or not excited about?  How are you working through it?

dandelionsgirl

I am not excited about our jr. bm.  It's FI's cousin and I was not really given the option.  I feel like she is going to make a huge scene at the ceremony.  I just want everything to go smoothly the day of. I am hoping she will drop out.

I am also terrified about writing our own vows.  FI and the priest were all for it and now I am panicked.  I keep putting it off.

vk2204

I do not want to make anymore decisions about anything. We still have a lot to do and I just don't care. I don't want centerpieces, I don't care what our invitations look like, I don't care what my girls hold while walking down the aisle, I dont care what our cake looks like. To me, all of those don't matter and I wish people would stop asking me about it lol.

nay1984

i do not want to worry abotu the invitations..or do them...i cant really afford getting them done for me..but the thought of organizing address etc is my own mini nightmare!!

Christine9866

Haha I like this post I am kinda bleh about wedding planning right now! I am tired about talking about the wedding to people. I feel like I am on rewind talking about the same thing over and over again. I am also annoyed with people putting there opinions in, when not asked for one. I am annoyed that two people from my work asked if they were invited to the wedding. How immature and what an awkward position am I in now. I am worried that I put too much pressure on myself to do a DIY candy buffet. Of course I have high expectations and do not just want a table with jars of candy on it. I have myself looking for unique rustic pieces to hold candy and go with our theme.

Christine9866

I like this post I am super worried about my DIY candy buffet. I think I put a lot of pressure on myself to make it over the top. I do not want a plain table with just jars of candy on it. I am making a gum drop topiary tree, lollipop tree, and am looking for rustic pieces to hold our candy to go along with our theme.

Some other wedding annoyances: I am tired of talking about the wedding to people! I feel like I am on rewind alllll the time.
I am annoyed that two people from my work asked if they were invited to the wedding. First off how immature and what an awkward postion to put someone in.

orangehills

The only thing I'm not excited about is the fear of things not turning out the way I want them. lol. I got rid of a lot of my anxiety when I cut the wedding to only immediate family/wedding party. If anything goes wrong- there are so few people it will be easy to roll with the punches. I guess I'm also really worried on how I will look- that I will look like crap or have something not turn out well, like the flowers. But I'm trying hard not to worry...

jls522

I'm not excited about picking ceremony music. I know it has to be done and I'll probably be the only one that notices it, but it's not something I'm really looking forward to doing.
I'm overwhelmed by invitation choices. I'm finding that I don't like most of them that I see so it's getting harder to find something that I do like!

lpick21

I am not looking forward to getting a bunch of gifts I didn't register for--when I gave people THREE different stores as options.

I'm a pretty practical person (I like to think), and the thought of people who don't know me that well (FMIL's friends, etc) deciding what I want/need is just senseless. My FI's grandmother has already emailed me to inform me that she got my a different, larger food processor for my shower than the one I wanted, and at a different store, so could I please remove the one I actually registered for. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? I live in a small apartment, I wanted a smaller one for a reason!

I know this sounds selfish, and is a total first world problem. I just don't know why I spent hours registering at 3 different places, taking in considertion convenience for my guests, for them to ignore it.

On another note--flowers scare me. Seriously, I wish someone else could just decide everything flower related because I have no idea.

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I'm nervous because we invited 257 people and we're hoping less than 150 show up.  I think it'll all work out and we might go over by a few people but yikes!!  His mom just couldn't cut the list anymore than she did, I guess.

I'm also nervous because I couldn't find a professional makeup artist in the area so two or three of my BMs are going to do everyone's makeup.  I know they'll do a great job and I'm sure I'll feel better about it once we practice a few times but sheesh. 

Finally, I'm nervous about the first dance.  Again, I think everything will be fine but FI and I are 6 hrs away from each other so I can't just turn on the stereo and grab him every night.  I won two free dance lessons at Fred Astaire but we have to actually both be where I live to redeem them, and they won't teach private lessons on Sat or Sun.  I guess I'm just worried that we won't have enough practice time and it'll just look like a high school prom dance.  At least we have a wedding to go to the first weekend in November.  Maybe we can get some practice in, haha.   We also haven't chosen a first dance song....so yea.


Von1976-Can you give his gift personally after the rehearsal dinner?  That's what I'm planning on doing.

joheryl

ChiGirl- I hear your woes about your sister.  I have a brother he won't be in the wedding but he is so unpredictable and moody.  He has allready told me on multiple occasions he will ruin my wedding and bring all these low life people to crash it.  I now tell him he isn't invited but my parents will probably try to bring him... really I think he is better left at home.

lpick - I am having the same issue with my registry!  People are just buying stuff (FI's family) and telling him what they bought to be approved.  I have a registry for a reason I want certain items.  I have been living in my home for 3 years and am mostly upgrading certain items.  I am going to register at another store ASAP to give them some more options since I don't think anyone wants to buy the china I registered for :-(  Total firstworld problems.

Some other items I am worried about include the guest list, we are inviting 115 and want no more then 96 in attendence.  I also am worried about my sister, my MOH she will be a new mom (5 month old) but I still am relying on her to do a lot the day of for me, I hope I don't seem too selfish.

princess pop

Oh my...I'm not excited about finding a photographer or cake. Meh...

Also, since I'm getting married in LV and all of my FI friends will be in from out of town I know it will be a messy drunk few days before for them. Since our ceremony doesnt start until 6pm I am terrified that they will all be drunk at the ceremony. And they probably won't be the best influences on him either. ok Ashley, calm down.

StefffiC

I'm really zen about the entire wedding. Amazing since I'm a psycho control freak. LOL

tiny speck

I am really really disappointed that we have absolutely no choice as to our officiant. It will be a complete stranger.

We are getting married in England, and we must book the ceremony with the local county council, which we've done, but we have to just let them send whoever is free on the day to actually perform the marriage ceremony. We can have a meeting a couple months in advance to confirm how we want the ceremony to go, but there is no guarantee that the person we meet with will be the same person to marry us. This really upsets me. Even if I could go just shake the person's hand once so I know who to expect on the day, that would make me feel so much better.

I am also not looking forward to choosing music for the ceremony and reception, but that's another matter.

Spunky414

I'm worried about my parents, they have a tendency to make any of my life events all about them things have to be their way. My dad doesn't know how to keep his mouth shut about his politics and he's a bigot it's increditbly inappropriate and embarrassing and worse after a few drinks.

I'm also worried about drinking aroung my FI's parents. They are wonderful people but they think 2 glasses of wine constitutes heavy drinking and they've asked if I was drunk after having one drink with a heavy dinner. I can't even imagine what they are going to think about our friends and my parents. We're having an open bar since FI thinks we should be able to have fun and not worry about it. 

I really just wanted to elope.   

chinofiesta93

I'm OVER the whole planning and deciding on everything.

I asked my DOC if I can upgrade to the next package she offers, and give her the reins. All I have done so far is booked church and reception venue, picked out ceremony music, made table runners and bought our centerpieces.
I'm in the middle of the back-and-forth part of booking/signing contracts/paying deposits with our DJ and caterer, but they aren't officially booked yet.

I don't want to do invites, don't want to think and stress over decor, don't want to do BM dresses, don't wanna do my FI's and his guys tuxes. Don't wanna do placecards, programs, physically put the centerpieces together, talk to vendors, visit/meet with vendors, I don't care about cake, I don't care about tasting food, none of that.

I am just oooooover it. I enjoy looking at this stuff online, but I just cannot make a decision and just put the whole thing off. I want my WP to narrow down my choices and I just choose between two or three options. I want to her to handle all the vendors and all I need to do is write a check.

Blech!

allychase

I'm not looking forward to the few weeks before and all of the final payments being made. I know in my head that we will have the money but I just keep feeling like magically were not going to have any money and be screwed. I'm not looking forward to telling the owner of the salon for the contest I won that I'm not interested in using the salon for my wedding cause I've decided I want to get my hair and makeup done in my own home. I'm not looking forward to doing programs and I considered not doing them but I kind of just love the idea of our monogram being all over everything and all of the small details in a wedding, if that makes any sense lol. I also REALLY REALLY want a videographer and found a decently priced one that is great but i dont know if we have the extra room in our budget. But then Ill be really upset if we way underbudgeted the amount of money we have and there in fact WAS room for a videographer. Other than that I'm just on cruise control right now and everything seems to be going smoothly.

BrittRN+

Hmm.. I'm not looking forward to spending money on invitations. I'm frugal. I'm also nervous about making my own centerpieces and bringing them to Mexico without breaking them. Plus stressed about getting clear skin before the wedding. Being disappointed in our photos is my greatest fear.

dani1361

Im trying to take things as they come, im very calm about this whole wedding thing which i didnt think would happen. Im worried about clear skin on the big day, it never fails, on an important day i get a huge zit. lol but im also a little nervous about the actualy day going down. our ceremony and reception is in the same location, everythings got to go down in the five hours we have the venue. but all the big stuff is done!!!

StefffiC

I am really concerned about it being peak season at work and me not being able to take much time off around the wedding. I'm taking two weeks off in May for our honeymoon, though.

I'm going to me nucking futs from work.

My MIL is planning and coordinating our wedding, she's a class act and I'm so blessed, but work is my usual stressor. LOL

vk2204

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[QUOTE]I'm not looking forward to the few weeks before and all of the final payments being made. I know in my head that we will have the money but I just keep feeling like magically were not going to have any money and be screwed. I'm not looking forward to telling the owner of the salon for the contest I won that I'm not interested in using the salon for my wedding cause I've decided I want to get my hair and makeup done in my own home. I'm not looking forward to doing programs and I considered not doing them but I kind of just love the idea of our monogram being all over everything and all of the small details in a wedding, if that makes any sense lol. <strong>I also REALLY REALLY want a videographer</strong> and found a decently priced one that is great but i dont know if we have the extra room in our budget. But then Ill be really upset if we way underbudgeted the amount of money we have and there in fact WAS room for a videographer. Other than that I'm just on cruise control right now and everything seems to be going smoothly.
Posted by allychase[/QUOTE]

Get one. I would rather have it, then look back and wish I had one, ya know?

ChiGirl2013

Tiny, we're also doing a destination wedding and won't know who our officiant is, either.  I hate that.  We're flying down 4 days before the wedding and I'm asking to meet with THE officiant the day before the wedding.  Is that something you can request?  I don't mind being married by a total stranger because we don't go to church much anyway, but like you, I'd rather at least have SOME idea of who the person is and maybe give them a glimpse at who WE are so he/she can make the ceremony a bit more personal. 

BizWiz4

INVITATIONS!  I want something nice, not too expensive, but not total crap.  I'm sick of looking at them. I just want it to be over with.  Anyone ordered from wedding paper divas who can attest to quality?

ChiGirl2013

I don't know about the quality, but FI's sister ordered from them and it took over 6 months (and many, MANY angry phone calls/emails) for her to get them.  By the time she got them, it was too late - she had already had to buy different ones to send out.  I think her invites arrived 4 weeks before her wedding and 1 week before her RSVP date.  *shrug*  I know a lot of people have had good experiences with them, though.  Have you checked online reviews and the BBB?

1mobags

I am least excited about the bridal shower. I dont want one and they are throwing one anyway ........I hate it.

tiny speck

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[QUOTE]Tiny, we're also doing a destination wedding and won't know who our officiant is, either.  I hate that.  We're flying down 4 days before the wedding and I'm asking to meet with THE officiant the day before the wedding.  Is that something you can request?  I don't mind being married by a total stranger because we don't go to church much anyway, but like you, I'd rather at least have SOME idea of who the person is and maybe give them a glimpse at who WE are so he/she can make the ceremony a bit more personal. 
Posted by ChiGirl2013[/QUOTE]

Sorry to hear you're in teh same boat as me. Unfortunately, I know I can go to the registry office beforehand to discuss the ceremony, but they refuse to make arrangements so that I can meet the officiant beforehand. I find it hard to believe that they won't know who will be officiating what wedding until the day of, but that's kind of how they're playing it. Also, we are getting married on a Wednesday, so it's not like there will be loads of other weddings going on under their jurisdiction... Annoying, but it will be ok. That's what I keep telling myself.

tiny speck

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[QUOTE]I am least excited about the bridal shower. I dont want one and they are throwing one anyway ........I hate it.
Posted by 1mobags[/QUOTE]

If you really don't want one and have told people you don't want one, I guess your only options are to suck it up, or refuse to show up. If you feel strongly enough about it, I'd sit down with whoever is planning and say something like, "Look, I really appreciate the time and effort you want to put into organizing a shower for me, but it really makes me uncomfortable and I'd really prefer not to have a shower."

I don't want any kind of bachelorette, and I'm afraid some of my friends here are expecting to plan one (I'm also not having any bridesmaids so it would be random friends). If it comes to that I fully intend to let anyone who brings it up know that I'm not participating.

ChiGirl2013

I don't want a bachelorette party either.  I'm in my mid 30's and I have a kid - I'm over the "let's get falling down drunk and grope greasy naked strangers" thing.  I refused and refused and refused a bachelorette party.  My sister, who knows me best, suggested we rent a large hotel room and have a sleepover - all my old favorite movies from the 80's, pizza, staying up all night giving each other facials, etc.  THAT is more up my alley and I'm actually sort of excited about it.

anssett

I feel better knowing there are parts other people are dreading. :-)

I was married years ago and my ex & I are now best friends. He & his girlfriend often go out with me & FI. We're all super pals. It's a great ending to a divorce! However, my dad HATES my ex. He only remembers the bad things and reasons I left. We're having a wedding of 9 people including me, FI, my ex, ex's girlfriend, my father, FI's parents, 2 other amazing friends. I've had 2 talks with Dad already about putting on his 'big boy pants' and sucking it up. I hope he doesn't throw a fit but I refuse to NOT include my best friend in my wedding day when FI & I want him there. Yay family.