I know that we are all getting in rehearsal dinner mode so I need some advice from my fellow april brides. My future in laws have graciously offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. Honestly, it really doesn't bother me what restaurant it is held at or many of the other details, but I know there is going to be a problem with the guest list.
My future mother in law doesn't believe that the husband/wives or boyfriends/girlfriends of the people in our bridal party and the people who will be doing a reading at our wedding ceremony should be invited. I think this is rude. My godmother/aunt will be doing a reading..how am I suppose to tell her that her husband/my uncle can't attend? My Maid of Honor/cousin will be flying in from Florida for my wedding with her husband...how do I tell her that her husband can't attend? The list goes on and on of people that I will be insulting by not inviting their spouse/significiant other.
I don't want to seem greedy or ungrateful, but I'm not sure how to handle this. We could offer to pay for the extra people but it isn't really an expense we can afford. If we were paying for the rehearsal dinner on our own it would be something simple, probably buffet at our home that we could afford. I know what she is planning will be more elaborate. Any advice?