NWR: Heartbroken

julibug86

I posted the other day about my sister being pregnant and really appreciated everyone's excitement.  Sadly, my sister went to the doctor yesterday and there was no heartbeat - she lost the baby.  She's had a lot of trouble conceiving in the past (took her five years of trying to have my nephew who is now 2 1/2), so it's not entirely shocking.  I just feel terrible because she was at the "safe" point and had started telling everyone just in the past week or so.  Fortunately, she hadn't told anyone at work yet so doesn't have to go through the emotions there. 

Tomorrow is my bachelorette and Sunday is her birthday, not exactly the best timing for a whole weekend of parties, but I know she'll insist on partaking since she organized the whole bachelorette, is my matron of honor, and is my only sister.  I just know how heartbroken I am feeling and can't imagine her pain.  Not exactly the way to start off a weekend of celebrations...

Jessa617

My sympathies to your sister. I can't say I know exactly how she feels because I wasn't that far along, but I can certainly relate. It's a very tough situation to be in and it takes a huge toll on you emotionally. Just let her know that you're there for her in whatever she needs. I hope you are able to enjoy your b-party this weekend. *hugs*

Blondy214

I am so sorry

phoenix870509

I am so sorry. I don't know how religious you or your family are, but I will say a mi sheberach for you all, a prayer for healing. And try to have a good weekend. Maybe it will be the healing your sister needs.

ChiGirl2013

My condolences to your sister and family.  My sister has 4 Angels that she lost and I never knew what to say or do to help her.  It's such a horrible situation all around.  *HUGS*

redjellybean128

So sorry to hear that

tmw7278

So sorry to hear this. There really isnt much anyone can say or do to make her feel better.
I do know everything happens for a reason.
Maybe a weekend of partying will help keep her mind off of it.

[Deleted User]

I'm so so sorry for you and your sister. There really is nothing you can say or do to help. I think the parties might actually be good though. Try to keep her mind off things, keep the mood light, but allow her moments to withdraw and be sad if she needs them.

Not that it at all compares, but last summer I had flown out to go to a friend of FI's wedding. The morning of the wedding, at about 6am, I got a call from my mom saying my grandmother was going to die within a few hours and I should call and say my goodbyes. I did, spent a few hours crying, but then had to pull myself together to help everyone set up for the wedding and to take part in the party. I thought it was going to be the hardest thing ever but it actually was hugely helpful. I had some moments when I stepped out and shed a few tears, but, for the most part, it distracted me. It reminded me of the good things I had in my life, the wonderful people who love me. So, seriously, maybe it will help her to dive into other things and put on a smile.

I'll say a prayer for you both. ((hugs))

[Deleted User]

I'm so sorry to hear that.  I know you'll keep an eye on her this weekend, which is what she probably needs more than anything right now.  *hugs and prayers*

orangehills

I'm so sorry That's got to be so hard. In a way, this weekend of activity will be a very good distraction and keep her occupied so she won't be able to think about it all the time.

Christine9866

I am soo sorry!

tiny speck

I'm really sorry to hear this

julibug86

Thanks for all the condolences.  My best friend and my brother's girlfriend are both aware of the situation, so I know they can also help make sure she's okay.  It's just tough because she is one of those confident, life of the party, always the first to make a joke types and I know she'll want to be like that for the bachelorette. 

She's waiting to take the medication until Sunday (her birthday) and will have to go through that terrible physical process Sunday & Monday.  My mom typically watches my nephew on Mondays so at least she will be there to help my sister if she needs it.

Thanks for sharing your story, Von.  I am definitely of the mindset that you do need to make the best of what's around.  My best friend's boyfriend (boyfriend always seems like a juvenile word when they had been together over five years) passed away two years ago this month.  His funeral was on my birthday and since we had so many friends in common (he went to hs with us, too), it was difficult to accept birthday wishes yet so many people knew it was my birthday.  But it was, honestly, a great day and one that he would've loved.  After the service, we went to the restaurant/bar where he worked (a local town hotspot) and a small group of us stayed there for 8 hours, eating and drinking and laughing.  It was a miraculous 75 degrees and sunny (this is April in New England!) and we were outside on the deck most of the day. 

adawn1981

I'm so sorry

vk2204

I am so sorry for your loss.