A few weeks ago, we asked FMIL to start getting together a guest list. I know it's a bit early but she really wants to invite a lot of people and we needed her to really think about who should be coming. Got a text this evening saying "people say it too early to give you yes or no". I can only assume that she was asking people in order to put them on the list. Argh. FI sent a reply saying "Mom, please don't invite people. We just need a list from you of who you would like us to invite.". Guess we need ANOTHER meeting to explain American wedding customs.