I had known my FI for a while, I thought he was a find, but he never asked me out. Well, I lost some weight, and started paying more attention to my health, and I started feeling better about myself, and then he asked me out for our first date...
I asked him Why he had not asked me out before, and he replied-
"I thought you were an awesome Girl, but I am looking for what you beacme by yourself, not what I could turn you into. It is not my place to tell a woman , before I am married to her, how she is supposed to look and live. Just like I would not expect you to try and successfully change me, I could not expect you to fit an expectation which you are not motivated to be. I want to be able to physiaclly lift my wife, not only for fun, but also safety. I want to see her pursue a healthy lifestyle, and keep herself up. I wanted to see if you would change for your sake, not mine. I don't want Barbie, but remember Guys are SUPER visual, so thanks for helping a brother out!"