Okay, ladies. I really need your support and advice on this one.
I had my engagement party last night and it was wonderful. All my bridesmaids were there, one whom I don't get to see very often because she lives out of state.
So, toward the end of the party that BM kept asking my groom and I to go out to a bar with her as soon as the party was over. My feet hurt (but my shoes were fantastic, lol) and he was tired from standing all night. We're in our 30's and 40's so we don't have the stanima we had in our 20's. Plus, I wanted to help my Mom and hostesses clean up a bit.
My older sister, also one of my bridesmaids, is a recovering alcoholic. This same BM asked my sister to "go somewhere" with her after the party. I called the BM over and said, "Please don't take my alcoholic sister to a bar." She said okay, but I realized that my sister overheard and got really angry acting.
I woke up this morning and on my face book page is a picture of them drinking at a bar. Posted at midnight last night.
I realize that these are two adults and that I was wrong to say anything at the party but I'm scared to death that my sister will get into binge drinking. Being that they are both BM's and the wedding is in the French Qtr, I'm terrified.
I will call my sister and apologize for saying anything. It wasn't my place. And tell her how much I love her. But how should I approach the BM who seems to value drinking above everything else, including my feelings. She's been my friend since I was 4 years old and I was in her wedding. I just didn't know she'd become such a bar fly (which is fine but not always appropriate).
My feelings are so hurt. I can't hold back the tears when I think about the past with my sister's drinking. She's been in the ER several times and even had to be brought back when her heart stopped from alcohol poisoning.
I don't know how to handle this.