Save The Dates

lrkutney324

I was thinking about sending them in March, but after looking around at Hotels, it seems like they fill up fast and we have a lot of OOT guests. Do you all think I should send them out sooner? My mom was thinking November/December

blondeintgeragrl

I think it all depends on the guests and time of year. I know for ours I will probably send them out a year ahead because May is a busy month - graduations, vacations starting, and lots of weddings. I don't think there would be an issue with sending them early? Then again I don't have experience with this ... I guess maybe if its early people may just sort of look at it and think "oh thats far away".

tidetravel

1 year is too early IMO. They will be lost/forgotten by the time the wedding rolls around. Send out STDs at about the 6 month mark - (8 months tops, if your wedding is on a holiday.)

tidetravel

Oh, and FYI - be sure you have an established guest list if/when you decide on STDs. STD = invite and you can't take it back. There are many horror stories here about people sending STDs and then either the circumstances of the relationship or of the wedding change. Those people that you have sent and STD to are obligated to get an invite since, presumably, they have already made plans to attend the wedding.

mmattoon

I sent mine out just over 3 months in advance but I would recommend a little longer than that. We only have a few OOT people and we're getting married in the beginning of November so I think the hotels are a lot less crowded than during the summer. I would recommend 4 to 6 months early unless it's a destination wedding, in that case I would say around 9 months is good.

blondeintgeragrl

The main reason I said maybe closer to a year is because May-Aug to super packed (or at least for me). I know every May I run into the issue of graduations and weddings on the same day, or having a vacation already planned when I get notified. I think it depends on your guests though, like in my family circles summer vacations are made more than a year out because of trying to coordinate everyone. Or maybe instead of sending the save the dates out that early so they don't get misplaced and lost, maybe just get the date out by word of mouth so maybe some of the people that may have more issues know earlier.

mmattoon

Well I don't think it's a bad idea to send them out a year in advance. If you want to do that, go for it. I would say no more than a year out though. You could also chose who gets STDs. We only sent them out to half our guest list... mostly the people that we really wanted to be there but didn't see on a weekly basis so may not have been told the date or didn't remember to write it down.

smange10.10

We sent ours out 9-10 months in advance.  Personally, I think that's ideal.  Even 8 months is good.  A year might be a little too early - unless you are getting married over a holiday weekend.