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Speech Question...

Ok so I was talking with my MOH of this weekend and I am not even sure how it came up, but my question is when does the MOH give her speech? At the rehearsal dinner or reception? She thinks it is only the rehearsal dinner and I have always seen it done at the reception. So which is the proper way? I didn't know there was this much etiquette for the speech!
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Re: Speech Question...

  • edited December 2011
    I really don't think there is a right or wrong way for this.  If your MOH doesn't feel comfortable give a speech in front of a ton of people and would prefer to do it at the rehearsal dinner - so be it.  I was in a wedding last year with one matron of honor and two maids of honor (don't ask).  The two maids of honor gave a speech at the rehearsal dinner and the matron (her sister) gave a speech at the wedding.  Since there's no real proper way - I would ask her what she would prefer since she's the one giving it.  Then again, if you feel very strongly with her speaking at the wedding, voice that to her as well.
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks! I thought she would at the reception until she mentioned it would be at the RD. She really doesn't want to do her speech at the reception and would much rather do it at the RD however I was and have been expecting the reception so we will have to talk about it and see what we decide!
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  • edited December 2011
    I totally understand how you feel.  It's a double edged sore.  She doesn't feel comfortable and you don't want to force her but it's something you've been looking forward to for a while.  There's really no answer to that question - unfortunately.  Maybe this could help - for my sister's wedding, I was the MOH and had to do a speech at the reception.  I'm not usually one to get nervous, and after I hit the bar, I really wasn't.  But that's not the tip - I was in cahoots with the BM and we stood up there together and made it fun so that we weren't up there front and center all by ourselves. 
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  • ajerome21ajerome21 member
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    edited December 2011
    it doesn't matter.... i have been to weddings where the moh gave a speech and have been to weddings where moh did not give a speech.my sister is sooooo shy, she is my moh, so more than likely she will do it at the reh. dinner and it doesn't bother me either way.that is a good idea that maybe she and the bestman can get together.  also, what size vases did you get at the dollar tree on joppa? i found 7" at the dollar tree in golden ring. i am looking for 5 inch.
  • edited December 2011
    Not sure what size they are. I can measure them tonight and let you know! Sorry! I knew what size I wanted by the sight of them so never paid attention to the actual size!
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