WEEKDAY WEDDING

AT4

Hi ladies...

So I am planning my wedding for May 10th 2012, and it i a Thursday. The FI and I have dicussed the pros and cons for having a weekday wedding, at that it being a Thursday... but  I hear both sides and I really think it will work out! However, do you think it will affect Mother's Day even though that day is on May 13th...and do you think having a rehersal dinner on wedneday is bad...I mean it is only for the bridal party anyway and our wedding is mostly family and close friends of about 100-110 ppl....opinions or suggestions please, HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT WEEKDAY WEDDINGS?! TIA

ajerome21

I don't think it will cause a problem with Mother's Day.  It's a few days later.  My wedding is on a Friday and our reh. dinner is going to be on a Wednesday evening.  I don't see anything wrong with that.

Now for you last question: "How do you feel about weekday weddings?"  I am having my wedding on a weekday (Friday), however, I think a wedding on a Thursday is a little strange.  However, someone told me that it was strange that I was having a Friday wedding.  I have only been to weddings that were on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays.  That just seems to be the norm.  I am sure you've discussed the pros and cons.  Just be aware that some people may make snarky comments about it, not show up, leave early, etc.  However, the people that matter and really want to be there will show up.  Honestly, if someone I knew was getting married on a monday, thursday, etc. I would show up but I think I would be a little annoyed with it, however, I may not be.  I guess it depends on the situation.  But at the end of the day it's not about the guests its about the bride and groom.  I say do what you want.  Looks like you have plenty of time to inform you guests of the date for them to make arrangements.

I am curious of why you are going with a Thursday wedding?  I would assume the date has a meaning or for cost reasons  -  if cost is the case and you decide not to have a Thrusday wedding you may want to consider a Friday or Sunday wedding which is usually less expensive than Saturdays.

Good Luck Planning!  

bmoremegan

I think a wedding any day besides Friday, Saturday or Sunday is a little strange, honestly. It doesn't mean I wouldn't go, but it does make things difficult. It would depend on my job and if I could get time off work and if FI could get time off work too. But like pp said, people who care will be there...and I don't think it will impact Mother's Day at all...

Ginabean2011

Would I attend a weekday wedding? Yes probably- if we are close friends or family. Do I love the idea? No.

LauraT25

If you're having a small wedding with mostly close family, you probably have less to worry about with a Thursday wedding.  But I think you should run it by your closest family members before booking anything - we did that even for our Friday wedding, just to make sure our parents and siblings could come.

Like the others said, I am not crazy about the idea of a Thursday wedding, since it sort of maximizes the amount of time that OOT guests need to take off work, and even in-town guests may have issues leaving work early Thursday and then not wanting to stay out late/party hard since they have work the next morning.  But if you're one of my closest friends, I'll do my best to attend.

I don't think it will have any impact on Mother's Day.

gottahavashorti

I don't think it will cause an issue with the rehearsal or Mother's Day. 

But it would be very inconvenient for your guests, who would have to take extra time off if traveling.  In town guests might also have to take time off or may not be able to make it if they work late, have a lengthy commute or would have to sit in rush hour traffic.  They also may have to leave early due to work the next day.

SweetCFly

I don't think there's anything "wrong" with weekday weddings, apparenty they are becoming more and more common.  On my month board (July 2010), there are tons of girls getting married in the last week of July on almost every day of the week... I'm thinking some of them might be destination weddings, though, since it's summer. 

We are having a Friday wedding.  That being said, I know a lot of our OOT guests (FI's family) may not be able to make it because it's hard for them to take 2 days off/of vacation because it's a Friday not a Saturday (and our RD is Thursday night which most of them are invited to).  It's really up to you, and I'd ask your family about who'd be able to make it, it sounds like that's important to you.  Weekday weddings can be more difficult for guests to attend unfortunately. 

(And just for the sake of argument, I honestly have not gotten any discounts for having a Friday wedding.  But that could be because my wedding is in "peak" wedding season). 

strawberrycrz

Like everyone else said, it is a little strange however if it were a close family member/friend I would attend.  I would be a little worried/upset about having to go into work on Thursday morning tired though, so I might leave the reception pretty early. 

I really don't think it will have any affect on Mothers Day.

smange10.10

To answer your first question - I do not believe that the wedding would interfere with Mother's Day weekend.  And I do not think having your rehearsal and rehearsal dinner on Wednesday will be an issue.  We had ours on Thursday, for our Saturday wedding.  It was just easier than having it on Friday...we were able to relax a little bit more.

Second, and I'm not going to lie - I think a Thursday wedding it a little weird.  If you are trying to save money, which I totally understand, Fridays and Sundays are very popular and I don't feel like you would be asking a lot of your guests.  Like PPs said, people might have problems taking time off of work for a Thursday wedding and wouldn't want to stay out as late because they would have to work on Friday.  I always try my bestest to go to any wedding I'm invited to, but depending on the relationship, and if it's on a Thursday might weigh a little more in my decision.

dawnmhayden

Like pp said, I think that it's your wedding and you do what you want, and since you have plenty of time to give people a heads up, then you are giving people time to take off/make plans, etc.  However, with that said, be prepared to have a lot of people not be able to come, leave early, etc. 
My wedding is a Friday as well and I know we already have some OOTs that said they just can't make it-they can't get the day off of work to travel and make it on time.  Also, my rehearsal is on a Thursday, and a few of my BMs spouses/dates can't come because they need to be at work. 
We did get a good deal on our reception though because it was a Friday, but other than that I don't think any of our other vendors gave us any discounts.
As for the Mother's Day thing, I don't think that will cause an issue at all. If you are worried about the wedding interfering with Mother's Day, I think it's fine as long as the wedding is not on Mother's Day itself...

Jody&Jason

I don't think that Mother's Day is a problem.  I agree with the others though, it does make it quite difficult for your guests especially those in your wedding party and out of towners.  I know that personally it would be difficult for me to attend a Thursday wedding because I have a very long commute & not much leave at work.  However, if I was very close to the person I would obviously make it happen.  If you're having a small wedding and most people are local then this might not be a big issue for you.

I agree with the others---if you're trying to save money, consider a Friday or Sunday wedding. 

LauraT25

FWIW, we saved a couple thousand dollars on our venue for having a Friday wedding, but we haven't gotten any other discounts.

ajerome21

Not every venue does the discounts but many do.  We saved a couple thousand dollars on our venue for having a Friday wedding.  We haven't received any other discounts from our vendors (photography, dj, etc).  I don't think many do that but I know a few that do.  Every venue I went to look at (about 4-5) all had Friday/Sunday discounts with the exception of one.  We almost went with Truffles Catering at the Belvedere and there was a couple thousand dollar difference from Friday to Saturday.  We were initially going to do a Saturday wedding until we went there and saw the big difference. I didn't even know about the Friday discount. They even gave us a mock contract for a weekday wedding (I think a thursday or Monday), it was super cheap but I wasn't even going to consider it.

Point is - If the venue doesn't offer those discounts and is the same price regardless of what day it is on, I would have it on a Friday/Saturday.  But that's just my opinion. 

tracy_k

I don't love Friday weddings but I wouldn't gripe about them either.

However, a Thursday wedding would kind of irritate me, especially if it was out of town and even more especially if I was in the wedding party. If the rehearsal is then on Wednesday, that would mean I would have to take at least three, possibly four days off, and my somewhat limited vacation days are usually pretty well spoken-for in advance.

I mean, I'd still go, and I wouldn't say anything directly to the bride, but you can be sure I'd be complaining about it to my husband and anyone else who would listen.

vjcjenn1

I would not be able to stop talking and griping about a Thursday wedding

AT4

Thanks ladies for all of your input...alot of your comments have me thinking and especially laughing from a few! Thanks again!!

nazacewed

I'm having a Thursday wedding, and surprizingly pretty much everyone who I invited is coming.  I know it's a bit inconvenient, but it's only going to last untill 10:30 PM, so that's not super late, and it was 1/2 the price vs. having it on a Saturday.  Plus it's your WEDDING.  It only happens once.  I don't think anyone should complain, it's your day and if they love you they will be there and be happy for you.

25Blueshoes

There is a great new venue in Havre de Grace, MD that hosts weekday weddings.
La Banque de Flueve , a fully restored historical bank on the Chesapeake Bay.