RSVP problem, PLEASE help!

SweetCFly

Sooooo we were at a family party this weekend, and a friend of the family came up to me (with a lot of my family members around) and said, "Caroline, I got your wedding invitation, and I will send my RSVP card in very soon, but I need to find a date first." 

I was so dumbfounded I think my mouth was hanging open, and I was kinda like "Ha, okay!"  Because I was just flat out confused.  This guys is single.  We didn't give him a date!  We didn't give any single people dates!  We really only invited people with dates if they were engaged, married, or living together... and we gave those in our bridal party dates if they had serious SO's/engaged/married (and we def have people in our WP who are single and didn't get dates).

So, this guy posts on Fb this morning how he had an awesome weekend, which included getting this girl, "the most beautiful girl in the world" to accompany him as his date to our wedding (it was his status, not a post on my wall).  AAAAHHH!  I hadn't had a chance to tell him no yet.

Pleast help!  What do I do?  It really isn't fair that he brings this random person I don't know, when I have good friends who are not bringing their boyfriends to my wedding because we couldn't afford/didin't have room on the guest list due to space. 

arbolita

Ugh, these kind of situations suck.

You have two options here - you can just let it go and work his date into your seating chart, and hope you get enough declines to fit her or you can talk to him and tell him that you did not invite him with a guest because of space/seating issues and right now you can't accomodate his friend, but will let him know if something changes.  With that second one, you do risk the chance of him deciding not to attend at all. 

Honestly, you just need to figure out what you are most comfortable doing, and what the longterm effects will be of either decision.  Good luck!

strawberrycrz

I agree with arb.  Those are basically you're only choices.  Since you didn't try to stop him from bringing a date when he first said that to you,  I'd kinda feel guilty about telling him that he couldn't bring her.  I'd probably let her come since it was my fault for not saying anything.

SweetCFly

So I e-mailed him last night... thank goodness he is a very laid back person and he was totally cool with it.  I apologzed like a million times, and I told him I should have said soemthing when he first told me.  He said it really wasn't a big deal and he'll definitely still be coming!  My cousin (who is in the WP) aparently told him it would be okay for him to bring a date lol.  Oh man... too bad my cousin has been dating the same girl for 5 years, she actually got her own invitation!, so of course he figured it would be okay for Dan to bring a date too. 

Thanks for the advice!

dawnmhayden

Glad to hear it all worked out for you.  This is one of my biggest fears because we are doing exactly what you did in allowing our guests to bring dates.  I think sometimes people just don't get how expensive adding just one person to your guest list can be!

alexandramezzo

I'm glad this all worked out!