problem with bridesmaid.....

amyg8327

OK, so I just finished sending out my invites.  We did not do the + one thing, because of money and space constraints (and really, I dont want a bunch of total strangers at my wedding).  All in all we invited a total of around 125.

I have four bridesmaids, FI has four groomsmen.  Of these eight, seven have serious significant others whom we did invite- they are all friends of ours anyway.  My one bridesmaid, however, has been single for a long time now, and I didnt put a + one on her invite.  She calls me the other day and asks if she can bring a friend.......not a date, but a friend.  Am I wrong to be a little annoyed?  What should I tell her?  All I said was I'd have to wait and see, because it really depends on how many people RSVP yes.  I havent told FI yet, but I think he's definitely going to be mad....

And its not like she completely doesnt know anyone else, she's is really good friends with my MOH.

I just confused

Ginabean2011

I think it is only polite to at least allow your wedding party to bring dates, especially if everyone else is bringing someone and she is excluded. I really think you should just say yes. I would definitely take offence if everyone in the wedding party had a date and I was the sole single person, sticking out like a sore thumb and 5th wheel. Yes- allow her to bring someone- I seriously doubt one person will break  your budget and it would be a very kind gesture toward your friend and she won't have to feel so uncomfortable.

Vanvisa

I agree with Ginabean. Even if she knows everyone else, they're all couples and she has to spend all day with them. Have you ever been to dinner with two other couples when you're the only single one? Now imagine that with seven couples instead. Since this isn't a random guest, but a member of your bridal party, I would give her a guest regardless of who else rsvps.

vjcjenn1

I think you've already done the right thing, I've had a BM ask to bring her grandmother.  I said, let me see.  Turns out, my own grandmother declined and a bunch of other people too. So I wrote to her and told her to come.

So wait and see, if you get enough declines, then maybe you can allow it. I think you are being fair enough by at least considering it.

SweetCFly

I think you should let her bring someone.  If it was a mixture of singles and non-singles, I'd say no, she doesn't get a date.  But I agree she'd feel left out/awkward as the only single one (that's prob why she's asking).