Etiquette? and make-up?

jessemae79

okay first....the groom's parents are paying for a large part of the wedding.  my invitation does not include their names on it...tacky or should I put there names on there too?also, i need a good make-up artist.  i've considered doing my own but i don't even actually own any cosmetics except for some mascara, so i think its a bad idea.  i don't want to look over-done because i usually don't where any.  i need someone willing to travel...suggestions?

squirrly

Personally, I'd put all the parents names in some way, regardless of who is paying.  We're paying for our own, and their names are on our invites.  But, yes, if they are paying, particularly a large amount, then they should be listed.  Check this site for more help, or post back with the text of what you're planning to send out.  It's easier to help that way.[url]http://tinyurl.com/2xr9mo[/url]As for makeup, it depends on where your wedding will be, but I've heard a lot of good things about Ana Crane-Simpson, although I have no personal knowledge.

camarogirlj

We had a problem with the wording of our invites because his parents are paying for the church and the reception food/drinks, but we're paying for the rest.  FMIL insisted their names go first since they were "hosting," but I also wanted my parents names on the invitation.   I'd suggest putting: Mr and Mrs Smith and (or along with)Mr and Mrs Jones request the honor of your presence... Both of them at the top look nice, but my FMIL wanted their names to stand alone.  Anyways, we ended up doing something like the following:Mr and Mrs George Smithrequest the honour of your presence at the Nuptial Mass unitingJessica Lynndaughter of Mr and Mrs Thomas Jonesand their sonSteven Edward*I think it sounds a bit goofy but I wanted my parents names on as well and this was the only way to satisfy both myself and his mother.GL!

Mrs_MollyMalone

Here's the thing about etiquette. It's a big word for stuff that is a no brainer. There is no reason you can't list "Mom and Dad request the honour of your presence at the wedding of our kick *** daughter to The Smoking Hot Groom, son of FILs." It's basically two lines that will save you the next 50 years of grief.  Do it. Now. Having your name on the invitation isn't an indication of whom is footing the bill.  Oscar and I paid for our ENTIRE wedding ourselves (and still paying, narf) and we listed both parents. And as far as makeup, you cannot, under any circumstance, go wrong with Bethany Tiseman, beautybybethany.comShe is FABULOUS.

Clairee Belcher

In your words, they are "paying for a large part of the wedding."Speaking as a parent, I would be a teeny bit hurt if you didn't give a nod to me and I had contributed to "a large part". I may never let you know it. But I have to admit...I'd be hurt. Parents spend their entire lives waiting on their child to cut a tooth, ride a bike, go to college, get married... Make-Up = I second Bethany - Beauty by Bethany.

SomethinBlu

I second Ana. There is also faces by MB. Mary Beth Bowles.

Tuneful_Bride

We went with a traditional wording that included his parents' names: Mr. and Mrs. John B. Tuneful request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Bride to Groom son of Ms. Nancy Groom Mr. and Mrs. Joe Groom on Saturday, the X of December blah blah blah Note the wording for his parents: they're divorced and his dad has remarried. In any case, just run the invitation by all parties involved BEFORE you go to press, to make sure everything is kosher w/ them.

Chartreuse_Goddess

I would definitely put the groom's parents name on the invites...ESPECIALLY if they are helping to pay for it.  I know I listed both sets of parents on ours...even though only 1 helped to pay...because they are our parents.  I would hate to see their feelings hurt...and this would be something that would stay with them.I third...or fourth....I lost count....Bethany Tiesman www.beautybybethany.com I use her for any special event I am in now...and used her for my wedding...you will not be disappointed. 

WillBMrs.Smith

Ana is amazing. That is who I am using for my 8/22 wedding. She is willing to travel and will be meeting me at the hotel where I am getting ready. I love her...I had my trial last week and I was very satisfied. She uses MAC makeup. She told me that my makeup wouldnt go anywhere for at least 7-8 hours. I had it done at 4:00 and at 11:30 it was all completely on..including the lip color! There was no charge for the trial and she does not require a deposit! I highly recommend.

melaniems31

Both of my parents are divorced and re-married.... I'm listing all 4.  FMIL is single and not paying for any of the wedding and her name will be on the invitation as well.I think all parents should always be listed.  My wording is similar to Tuneful's.

wildefyre42

What about the situation where Mom is remarried, step-dad and I only sort of get along and biological father is out of the picture and may or may not show up? Fi's family is easy.

Tuneful_Bride

Mr. and Mrs. Stepdad and Mom request the honour of your presence (or pleasure of your company at a non-sacred venue) at the marriage of their daughter Jesse Mae to Jess Mark Fiance son of blah blah blah

Tuneful_Bride

Or simply: Together with their parents, Jesse Mae Bride and Joe Bob Groom request the honour of your presence at their marriage blah blah blah

mrskongkran

I agree with Tuneful_Bride as far as the "together with their parents" listinG. I USED "TOGETHER WITH THEIR FAMILIES" because my entire family has truely played a vital part in it all and that way step-parent's etc can still feel included.Also WillBMrs.Smith good luck with your wedding this weekend. My wedding is on the same day.

eacottle

Because of difficult family situations, and the fact that everyone (including us) are splitting the bill fairly evenly, we decided to do Together with their parents Bride and Groom Request your presence.......