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Mother of the groom is wearing white!

My future mother-in-law just informed me that she will be wearing a long ivory skirt/top outfit to our wedding. I thought it was a given that only the bride wears white. Am I wrong for thinking that she is way out of line? How do I go about telling her how I feel without starting a fight? 

Re: Mother of the groom is wearing white!

  • edited December 2011
    Wow!  That takes a lot of guts.  I would put it on my darling husband to be to let his mother know that the only woman in anything close to white at his wedding will be his blushing bride, and she will simply have to choose another shade (such as whatever compliment your wedding colors, now is your chance girl).
  • edited December 2011
    WOW! I can't believe that. You need to fix that ASAP. I agree with previous post. Your FI needs to inform his mother that just isn't going to happen at your wedding.
    "I heard Jesus he drank wine, I'd bet we'd get along just fine. He can calm the storm and heal the blind and I bet he'd understand a heart like mine" ~Miranda Lambert
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  • edited December 2011
    Your Man shoudl definately be the one to say something. I think if you had a good relationship with her, you could probably ask her to go shopping with you so that you could pick out an outfit together.
  • edited December 2011
    I wouldn't let her get away with this... your FI needs to say something to her for sure.  She should really know better, so I am guessing she is trying to push your buttons for some reason?!?
  • blingingbrideblingingbride member
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    edited December 2011
    Well I'm glad that I'm not alone in thinking this is horrible ! Thanks! My FI doesn't understand what the "big deal" is. I understand that he's a guy and really has no clue but this is an obvious no no! Plus his mother and I have a good relationship, so I don't understand why she would do this. I guess I'll just keep harping on the issue with my FI and if given the right opportunity I'll have to say something her! 
  • sheilaheysheilahey member
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    edited December 2011
    this sounds like the movie Monster in Law!!! ahh!
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  • LilyAnna06LilyAnna06 member
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    edited December 2011
    my future MIL is wearing a black and white dress... mostly white.

    I'm so tired of her that I don't have the energy to fight it at this point.

    Good luck...
  • mmdpmmmdpm member
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    edited December 2011
    Traditionally the MOB wears beige.  And she may be thinking that ivory is okay.  Really as long as the dress she is wearing is not white it's not something to get really upset about.  No one is going to confuse her with the bride.  But if you are really upset about it have your FI talk to her and offer to go shopping with her for a new one. 

    Also she doesn't have to match or coordinate with your colors.  Just let her wear something that looks nice and that she is comfortable in the day of the wedding.
  • edited December 2011
    I would enlist a female family member, maybe MOG's sister or your FI's sister to broach the subject or offer to shop with her.
  • EMNIEMNI member
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    edited December 2011
    I say let it slide.  Have you seen her dress? It could be a darker ivory rather than a light ivory.  My MIL had a heck of a time finding a dress that flattered her and was in her budget, and when she finally found one it was a sand/light ivory color.  Not big deal.  Why? Because she was happy with it and she felt good in it. 
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  • edited December 2011
    I'd be pissed.  In fact, this happened at my wedding- I'm a redhead and looked washed out, even in a darker ivory, so I went with a pale gold dress.  

    MIL said she was wearing a long, dark teal green dress.  We got married in the evening in Sept, so it was definitely fall.  This is what she wore instead: 

    Short, off the shoulder, gold (albeit 2 shades darker than my dress, it was clearly the same color). 

     I was pissed.  My bridesmaids and family were aghast.  But at the end of the day, it was my wedding, and I married the love of my life, and that is what really mattered.  That being said, this dress will be in pictures in my home for the rest of my life, and I do huff a little bit when I go by it...

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