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VENT: So upset but I guess I learned my lesson!

So now I know not to post on here the name of someone you are planning to book until you have a signed contract and paid the deposit!

As I posted a the day before yesterday, we met with Paul from Sunshine Entertainment, loved him and planned to book him yesterday.  My FI emailed him in the early afternoon to tell him and ask him to send us contract to sign.  He responded that he would be honored to be our DJ. 

A few hours later he called back to say that he had just booked with someone else instead for our date.  Apparently someone saw on here that we were planning to book him, called yesterday morning to make an appointment and booked him on the spot (AFTER he had agreed to work with us).  He claims to not have known their date...but even if it was an honest mistake, that is some extremely poor organizational skills to not realize that he was committing to someone with the same date as a couple he had JUST agreed to work with.

I'm upset because we didnt get a DJ that we felt would be perfect for our event (but I guess if this is how he works-this is probably for the best), I'm upset myself for posting his name so someone else could rush to book him before we got a chance to pay, I'm just upset in general at the lack of organization and/or honesty in the situation in general...

So I guess couple lessons learned...don't trust everyone on the board and assume they are nice, don't mention names until you have a contract (someone might run out and grab them before you have a chance to sign), and don't trust all vendors to be honest people....bottom line-contract and $$ are what matters here, not your word.

Re: VENT: So upset but I guess I learned my lesson!

  • edited December 2011
    That is so fowl. I am so sorry that happened to you and I do hope you find someone else.

    As for not mentioning a vedors name until you have booked them, that's a good call. Great vendors are few and far between and whenever someone hears a good rec about a vendor that they need, you can be sure that they will be booking that person.
  • lola-belle77lola-belle77 member
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    edited December 2011
    That is awful that another knottie would do that.  We're supposed to help each other. At the same time he should have called you before accepting someone else's deposit.  GL finding a new one.
  • sunkissed212sunkissed212 member
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    edited December 2011
    omg that truly sucks! Shame on him for doing that! I realize business is business but that's really shady. Like you said, even if it was a mistake that doesn't say much for his organizational skills.

    I'm sorry that you didn't get to book him :( But, there's other DJ's out there and I'm sure you and FI will find one that is just as good, if not better, than this guy and your wedding will still be perfect!
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  • edited December 2011
    Wow. That's truly disappointing that a fellow knottie would do that but perhaps she wasn't aware of your date. Shame on him for meeting with a person and not holding their date. Every vendor I met with besides the venues, held my date for at least a week to give me time to look over the contract and send in a deposit if I wanted to book. Perhaps it was an honest mistake, but it reflects quite poorly on him.

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  • edited December 2011
    That sucks!  I think you are better off with another DJ though because usually they hold your date for you as a courtesy for at least 2 weeks while you make a decision.

    Also for what its worth, I'm pretty sure either he or someone that represents him was the one posting on the board about his business.  The person who kept recommending him only had four posts and they were all about him. 

    You will find a better DJ!  No worries!  But boo bad karma to him for booking someone else without checking with you first. 
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  • GwenwhyfareGwenwhyfare member
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    That's unfortanate that he made a verbal commitment and was not able to follow through. Like PP said, I'm sure you will find a great DJ for your wedding.
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  • edited December 2011
    Sorry about your luck. I'm sure you will find another DJ just as good if not better
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    edited December 2011
    So shady, but you're right....you probably don't want to work with someone like that.  There's a lot of other good DJs out there and I'm sure you'll find one you like.  I highly recommend mine (info in bio) and a few other Knotties are using him as well.
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  • shrades77shrades77 member
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    edited December 2011
    That sucks - I am so sorry to hear it.  It is really upsetting because you trust that everyone on here is on the same page as you and is on your side.  Frown  There are a lot of DJ's in the area though, so you should be able to find one just as good, if not better.  GL!!
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  • edited December 2011
    awwww :( That SUCKS!!!! I am so sorry to hear that! Yes! I AGREE with PP!
    I only posts certain things here. There are plenty of amazing and fun DJ's areound. Good Luck honey! 
  • edited December 2011
    Wow, that is not cool at all.  I've been very leary of mentioning anything on the Toledo boards because I'm scared of something like that happening.  I hope the person who stole him feels horrible for what they did and karma will bite them in the ass.

    As for the DJ, what's meant to be for you will be and I'm gonna bet you end up with someone 10 times better!  Good luck!
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  • edited December 2011
    I can understand why you're upset, both at the person who jumped in a booked and the DJ.  It is a good wake up call though for everyone on here -- be careful about what you post!  We all feel like this is a close community of friends, but the truth is ANYONE can read these boards and they may not all have good intentions.  Somebody warned me about that when I first joined, and I've been super paranoid ever since about not giving names of the vendors I'm considering until the contract is signed.  I'm truly sorry though, that really sucks that he wouldn't hold your date.
  • edited December 2011
    Awe, that is terrible! I'm sorry to hear about that. I never even thought about other knotties grabbing up vendors like that...so sad.  Like pp said, I know you will find an amazing DJ for your wedding!
  • geduftygedufty member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow! That is so awful. I can't believe he didn't hold your date for you. I'm sorry! You will definitely find someone better! GL.
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  • ms nobodyms nobody member
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    edited December 2011
    that is some sh!t. 

    i've scheduled meetings with a vendor that i knew someone else was meeting with (i scheduled it before i knew she did), but i would've scheduled one regardless. i felt guilty about it because i was meeting with them before her.

    we didnt end up booking that vendor, but they were #2. on the list if #1 fell through.

    but snapping up a vendor under someone's nose is pretty uncool. and not letting the potential client know that someone else is interested in that day is kinda mean. at least let someone know so if they're comfortable booking you on the spot they have a fair shot at it.
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  • edited December 2011
    Did the DJ tell you that someone had called him yesterday and set up a meeting...or are you assuming that's what happened?  It's entirely possible someone had already met with him (prior to yesteday) and happened to book him yesterday.  Just sayin'...

    If this were the case, it's poor planning on your DJ's part for not realizing they were the same date as you.
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  • terbear_86terbear_86 member
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    edited December 2011
    yucky for all of you in that situation. 

    Good news is that there are lots of great dj's. I know a few if you need some ideas.
  • sunkissed212sunkissed212 member
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    edited December 2011
    You know, Taryn's reply got me thinking....do you think maybe he told you that to cover up his mistake of almost double booking the date? It's always easier to blame someone else than it is to accept blame yourself if you mess up. I just can't imagine any of our knotties vendor snatching like that. Maybe I'm too trusting of my fellow brides but I just feel like some vendors want to retain a good reputation, especially on TK and probably wouldn't think twice about trying to make anyone but themselves out to be 'the bad guy'. Just a thought to ponder.
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  • edited December 2011

    To clear up the question...he was not just covering his tracks.  Another knottie (actually one who posts on here quite frequently) emailed him yesterday morning asking to set up an appointment ASAP.  I know this because DJ Paul sent the email to my FI and it had her name on it.  Frustrating...yes, but like I said, I learned my lesson!

  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_vent-upset-but-guess-learned-lesson?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:1d0ae0e1-6c78-4952-8311-538c79494012Post:3ade141e-d8e6-4f48-8674-db7fd6c01794">Re: VENT: So upset but I guess I learned my lesson!</a>:
    [QUOTE]To clear up the question...he was not just covering his tracks.  Another knottie (actually one who posts on here quite frequently) emailed him yesterday morning asking to set up an appointment ASAP.  I know this because DJ Paul sent the email to my FI and it had her name on it.  Frustrating...yes, but like I said, I learned my lesson!
    Posted by allikl62[/QUOTE]

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    To clear things up, because I feel as though I should be defending myself and also the DJ: I received an e-mail from Paul sometime last week because Brendan did not have our date available. Then I knew he was going to be at the bridal show in Novi and I wanted to meet him. At that point (Sunday) we arranged to meet at around 6:30 pm on Monday night to discuss everything. After meeting with him, I went home to talk it over with FI. We decided we wanted to book him and Paul wanted to meet FI (because of some miscommunication errors, FI went to the wrong meeting spot and was not able to meet with the DJ on Monday). I e-mailed him around 10:00 am to let him know at that point, we were going to book him. We then met up with him at 6:00 pm on Tuesday to give him a deposit.

    I agree there may have been a mix up with the dates. It's not necessarily the vendor's job to let potential clients know who else is looking at the date. If they make verbal agreements, how will they ever get business? Paul specifically told me that in order to reserve the date, we needed to give him $100. DJ Paul is a great guy. He did call me after our meeting yesterday and said that we were so close to losing him as a DJ because the other couple called him DURING our meeting on Tuesday.

    This is a tough situation and by no means did I come on TK and "steal" your vendor. I had met with him before you did. I do feel awful because I didn't mean for any of this to happen. It was merely coincidence that both myself and your FI met with him the same day an hour apart and have the same wedding date. There are certainly two sides to this story and I really do hope you understand what really happened. I am not a malicious b!tch as you make me seem to be. Hopefully we can get past this drama and celebrate the fact that we are 7 months out tomorrow. Again, I am sorry. I honestly never meant for this to happen.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_vent-upset-but-guess-learned-lesson?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:1d0ae0e1-6c78-4952-8311-538c79494012Post:3ade141e-d8e6-4f48-8674-db7fd6c01794">Re: VENT: So upset but I guess I learned my lesson!</a>:
    [QUOTE]To clear up the question...he was not just covering his tracks.  Another knottie (actually one who posts on here quite frequently) emailed him yesterday morning asking to set up an appointment ASAP.  I know this because DJ Paul sent the email to my FI and it had her name on it.  Frustrating...yes, but like I said, I learned my lesson!
    Posted by allikl62[/QUOTE]


    Ugh!  So sorry this happened to you.  Boo on the person that snatched him up! 
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  • edited December 2011
    Shannon, please read Corinne's response before passing judgement.  Thanks.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_vent-upset-but-guess-learned-lesson?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:1d0ae0e1-6c78-4952-8311-538c79494012Post:14db5ac8-cd49-4622-8076-ea75d7981272">Re: VENT: So upset but I guess I learned my lesson!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Shannon, please read Corinne's response before passing judgement.  Thanks.
    Posted by thecatsfancy[/QUOTE]

    Yikes sorry I must have been typing when that posted.  I didn't see that before I posted.  Didn't mean to offend anyone. 
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  • edited December 2011
    Corinne....thanks for clearing this up and sharing your side. I understand where you are coming from and do agree that it was a misfortunate coinsidence on our parts. I understand his policy is to get the deposit before holding the date, however I do think it is a pretty common courtsy in this business to at least hold the date for a few days to allow the couple to make a decision, get money together, arrange a meeting to get the money to him, ect. (Not saying we would have ended up with him instead if this was the case...just saying its a little uncool). But still the biggest frustration here is that he told my FI that he would love to be our DJ a few hours after you asked him to be yours. As a vendor in this business you NEED to be organized. And agreeing to two weddings that are the same date within hours is just poor organizational skills. That being said...I'm not trying to cause drama and I'm definitely ready to move on from this! Happy 7 months :)
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