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emarston1

How many serious relationships did you have before your fiance?  Have you ever been engaged or married before?

Allycat11

I've had 2 serious relationships before FI.
The first one I started dating when I was 17 and we broke up 3 years later.  We dealt with a long distance relationship for a year and a half or so.  We did take a break in between, but even then my friends referred to him as my ex-bf that one day I would marry.  If we were still the same people we were as teenagers, we would still be together, but we both changed a ton.  It was a very difficult break up, but no hard feelings now.  We catch up online every few months but never hang out, and now we are living 3 hours from eachother.  He got married 2 years ago which was difficult for me at the time.

I also dated someone during college for a year and a half.  We were wrong for eachother from day one.  Totally different families, and morals and values.  We kept fighting to make it work, but it was never meant to be.  He was also really controlling and treated me poorly.  I actually met FI after this bf bailed on me for my birthday weekend.  FI was kind of the rebound guy and I turned to him just for a friend when this ex started treating me worse than usual.  This guy also spent the first 2 months of FI and my relationship begging for me back and trying to break us up.  This got me started on the wrong foot with FSIL because she didn't like me having any contact with my ex, we're all good now though.  I have no contact whatsoever with this ex and don't intend to.  It does help that I live 3 hours from him now, but one day we will move back there and it is a small town. 

I was never engaged or married to anyone else.  I talked marriage with each of the other two but there was never a ring or a date. 

tcage001

I had one real serious relationship before FI and I've never been engaged but he has been before.

pbinghamsgirl

I have never had any serious relationships before FI. We have been together for 10 years and started dating when I was 16 years old. He had one year long relationship when in high school.

rcj2rcd

I had two relationships before FI. First one: in college for 1 year. This one was a total disaster. I was young and had no clue what I wanted. Second one: after college for 2 years. This one was really really bad. I was serously considering a restraining order at one point. Changed all the locks on my house and stuff like that. Broke up with this ex to date FI Best decision ever I've never been engaged or married before and neither has FI.

drewmw

I had one 'serious' relationship before FI. It was a guy I started dating at 17 and found the courage to break up with when I was 20. He was very controlling, but it got that way gradually, so I never really noticed it until one day I opened my eyes and realized it wasn't healthy. His sisters got married to their high school boyfriends when they were really young, so he had been planning on us getting married. At first I played along, but deep down I knew I'd never marry him. I broke up with him after a little over 3 years of dating.

I met Patrick (FI) 2 months after getting out of that 3 year relationship. I was only 20, and didn't want another serious relationship, but Patrick convinced me otherwise   I am his first serious relationship.

mirandall28

I've been in 2 serious relationships, besides FI. One of those was a marriage, unfortunately! I was young and dumb, but thankfully only wasted 3 years of my life! lol

baileyleev

Only one, but we started dating when I was 17...of course it wasn't going to last. I am a completely different person now. We do have a 5 year old son together though. So we will always be linked.

Mrs0toBe

I had two serious before FI, including my ex-husband.  FI has never been married.   

wetz4975

I only had 1 serious relationship before FI.
I was engaged but then when I relized I wouldn't be able to put up with some things he did I called it off. I have no contact with him and hope to keep it that way. Unfortantly I wasted 5 years of my life. I learned from it though so it wasn't a total loss.

larzhope

I had one serious relationship before FI, in grad school.  It got to the point of him asking if I wanted to go look at rings before I realized he wasn't the one for me.

amyl9

I was in 2 serious relationships before meeting my FI.

First, my high school sweetheart. We dated for 5ish years before calling it quits. 2 of the years were long distance while he was away at school. He's a great guy but we were just too young. We grew and changed too much over the course of the 5 years. No hard feelings between us at all...just wasn't going to work out. We had talked abour marriage early on but after awhile I think we both knew it wasn't heading that way.

Second one was a complete disaster. He was older than me and we were just wrong from each other from the very start. We were together for I suppose 1.5 years but a lot of that was spent on "breaks," time periods where he claimed he didn't know what he wanted and needed "space." These would range from a couple days to a month sometimes. We NEVER talked about marriage and I never even considered it with him. I should have smarted up long before I did. Oh well...everything happens for a reason.

FI and I have been together for 2-2.5 years...give or take...depending on who you ask LOL! He thinks we've been together longer than we have been. I guess he had claimed me long before I thought I was his.

sammichele

DH is my one and only serious relationship Although he's had 4 relationships before me, 3 of which were over a year long. I don't know if I/he would consider all of those to be "serious" though since a few were in high school.

LOTON01

Neither Fi or I have been married before.

I had two serious long relationships before FI. They were both 5 years long so I never really spent much time being single.

Fi had two serious relationships also. However they weren't as serious as mine because they didn't last as long. 

sweet_melissa81

It's really difficult for me to consider my high school relationship as a "serious relationship", but I dated the same guy in high school from the end of my Sophomore year until the day after I gratuated from High School. This relationship was very unhealthy and he was physically abusive.

I didn't get into another serious relationship until I was about 23 years old. I dated a guy off and on for over 3 years. We cared about each other, but we were just not right for one another. He has serious committment issues and is very selfish. He cheated, lied, went on dating webisites while were living together. He was also very manipulative and emotionally abusive. I grew up in a very abusiive home, so I guess that's why I've always dated abusive men. This relationship ended terribly with me in the hospital. It was very hard for me to move on because I was so emotionally abused by this man. I had no self-esteem.

After him I dated another guy. I thought this guy was my dream guy. He made me dinner and was romantic, but about 2 months into the relationship he started yelling all the time and was very controlling, constantly threw my past in my face. Our personalities were just too different to make it work. I stayed with him for about a year and thought things would get better because the beginning was so great, but it never did and we just went are separate ways.

I met my Fi when I was 27. We dated for about 2 months before we become exclusive. This relationship was just easy and things came naturally. I never thought I would find a man as wonderful as him. He is patient and understanding. He is everything I have ever prayed for. We dated for a little over 2 years before we got engaged.

emilynnp

I only had one serious relationship before this and it made it to "promise ring" status. Thankfully he never proposed, I know I would have said no, but for his sake I am glad he didn't. 

emarston1

DH was my one and only serious relationship and I was his.  It's kind of weird because the same is true for both of sets of parents.

acaponi87

I guess I had 2 'serious" relationships before FI and then one that was a little long but not too serious.  Both of the relationships lasted around 2 years but were def not headed toward marriage.  When FI and I met we were both dating other people.  We broke up with our significant others pretty quickly afterward (he had been dating his GF for 7 years...oops).  Both of our first engagements. When you know, you know!

paulandchelsea2012

My longest relationship before FI was a little over a year - and I was ready to dump him about 3 months in... but he was a stage 5 clinger!!

FI only had ONE girlfriend before me! And he dated her for FOUR AND A HALF YEARS!!!

We STILL haven't been together as long as they were - but she never got a RING!

and his mom told me she walked like a gorilla, so she's glad he finally got a girly girl!

-don't we love it when FMIL's diss the exes!?