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Parents Gifts

I know, I know this has been asked a million times, but I lack effort right now to try and search for the posts where this has been discussed.

FI asked me if I was 100% positive that we don't need to get our parents a gift. They paid for the majority of the wedding and I have plans to get both sets of parents a photo book with wedding pictures. That probably won't happen until around Christmas time. I of course was going to get both of them a nice card to express how thankful we are to have had help from them. Is that sufficient enough? We would obviously write in the card that we plan on getting them the photo books, but I just want to be reassured that our parents are not going to be upset that they don't get anything.

Re: Parents Gifts

  • Julz629Julz629 member
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    edited December 2011
    We are getting our parents something, but I also think they would be content not getting something.  But we just feel like we should get them SOMETHING after all they've done for us.  For the mom's, I got them wristlets that go wristlets that go with the color of their dresses...and I also think it's someting they could use again.  For the dads, we are getting them cigars and travel humidors.  We are also buying them both their albums after the wedding.

    If you want to get them a token gift, maybe a nice frame with an engagement pic in there for now...to eventually be replaced by a wedding pic?
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  • emily1004emily1004 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know if your parents would get upset.....BUT, in my humblest opinion, I really think you should get them something. Especially if they helped pay for the wedding. Maybe a gift card to their favorite restaurants, or picture frames. I would also include the very nice thank you card.
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  • edited December 2011
    You know your parents best so it's really based on how you think they would feel.  However, our parents and some family members were SO good to us that I would have felt bad had I not gotten them anything - especially if you're getting gifts for your groomsmen.  I agree that a small token gift could be a frame with an engagement picture.  Or maybe you can get one of those shadow frames (keepsake boxes).  You could include a couple of pictures (maybe one of you and FI and one with your parents), maybe a short poem or single line quote, and a little note that says you will be getting them a photo album.  After the wedding you can update the box with a piece of fabric, wedding photo, dried flower, etc.

    Hope that helps!
  • edited December 2011
    I'm going to disagree with the PP's and say you're fine!  You've got 2 days to go, you're not going to find a thoughtful present in that amount of time, and you've got better things to do right now.  

    I have heard from a lot of other brides on other boards (and my own experience) that parents don't expect to get anything from you, so it's not lie they're going to be disappointed if you're sitting there passing out gifts to your wedding party and they don't get something.  Honestly, if I was paying for my kid's wedding, I wouldn't want them to turn around and waste that money on a "token gift" for me.  I think the photo book of your wedding pictures is more than sufficient.  Just write a sincere thank you card and explain that their gift will come later.  The end. 

    Now go RELAX!!!
  • edited December 2011
    I understand how you feel abou the parents gifts.  If it helps, I think the picture frame idea is good, its what I am doing for our parents.  Oriental Trading has personalized wood picture frames for 12 bucks.  You can't beat that anywhere.  WE are going to put a paper inside that says coming soon...

    The item number at orientaltrading.com is:

    IN-42/4353
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