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RB/FG Question

I have a complicated family situation which leads to confusion with what I'm going to do about our FG and RB.  As of right now we have FI's only niece (8) as our FG and one of FI's nephews (6) as our RB.  We are close with their family and they are excited to be in the wedding.
We are debating having my 2 youngest siblings in our wedding as well, they will be the same ages as the current ones.  So here comes the complicated situation.
I was adopted when I was a baby because my parents were young.  In my adult life I have re-connected with my biological family and everything is wonderful, my biological sister (birth mother's daughter) has become my bff and is my moh.  My birth father has a daughter who will be 8 and son who will be 6 and we are torn if we want them in the wedding.  FI absolutely wants them and I do as well, but am worried about it being awkward because they haven't seen me very much and I don't want to put them in an uncomfortable situation.  We are trying to plan a trip to visit them in Chicago this spring, and we were invited to spend some time at the family cottage this summer as well.  If we see them both those times we may be close enough that it would not be awkward. 
So, with the wedding being at the end of October, how late would it be okay to ask them? 
Sorry that was so long winded.
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Re: RB/FG Question

  • edited December 2011
    I don't know if this helps, but we have 8 nieces and nephews between us. We have three as ring bearer/flower girls (ages 3-5) and then 3 more that are handing out programs and being greeters (ages7-10). This was our way to make sure that all the older ones were included and part of our day. The two youngest will be just under 2 at the wedding so too young to participate.

    You could also think about a jr. bride and groom. Not sure that adds additional complication, but just a thought.

    Good Luck! :)
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  • klreese0213klreese0213 member
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    edited December 2011
    IMO that seems like a lot of GF/RB, but if you guys are ok with the size, go ahead and do it. I would *think* the latest to ask would be july, because they'll need time to get their outfits.
    I'm sure including your bio-fathers children will help the family not feel so left out/awkward at the wedding. I can only imagine that the bio family may feel awkward around the adopted family at the wedding, so including them may break the ice a little.
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