Confessions/Vents

emarston1

Let's hear 'em!

BridetobeJenG

I have to confess that I'm registry stalking. Grrrrr... I swore I wouldn't, but I am.

July032011

Me too Jen! I haven't even sent out my shower invites yet!!!! But enough people know where I am registered and I can't help it.

MrsBarstool2011

I have a few this week.

On sunday my mom calls and I was a little annoyed with her already.  Rumor has it that she told my step-brother to just rsvp that they were coming even if they are not sure if they can make it.  Well on Sunday she said that my aunt wants to bring her mother in law and she said oh well Mike (cousin) isn't bringing anyone so we can just put her in for his plus one.  First of all, Mike hasn't responded yet.  Secondly, you are not paying for all these people.  I tried to just brush if off but then she insisited I tell her why I was annoyed.  So I explained, and she hung up on me!  Seriously!  Apparently she was mad at me for not showing up to my sisters house the week before to celebrate her birthday, mind you I have spent the last 3 weekends with her, and wanted to be passive aggressive and make me look like the bad guy.  Wrong time to do this when I am stressing out to get the semester done with school and plan a wedding!

My other vent is regarding RSVP.  We have several, like 30, still outstanding.How hard is it to write your name and a number, and place the already stamped card in the mail?  So I spent last night contacting my family that still hasn't replied.  FI has 6 people to contact and he said that we should just assume they are not coming.  Sorry, it doesn't work that way.  Several people that I contacted are coming that just either lost or placed the card in the mail late.  So suck it up and call them already!  Thankfully he said that he is going to have his mom call them but did he really need to argue with me about it?

rcj2rcd

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[QUOTE]I have to confess that I'm registry stalking. Grrrrr... I swore I wouldn't, but I am. :(
Posted by BridetobeJenG[/QUOTE]

I promised that I wouldn't, but I did. I felt so guilty afterwards tho. So no more checking for me.

Spartan325

I confess that I am giving up the wedding dress I really wanted to save my sister and family's feelings. They commented on it before they knew that was the one I wanted and after I could tell they were pretending to like it for me. Oh well, just a dress on just one day :-)

lcsnowflake

confession: I feel bad for all the bad things I have said about FMIL.  I realize and appreciate now that I can interact with her differently than I can with my mom because she's raised all boys.  When I told her I thought she should get invitations for the rehearsal dinner instead of inviting via word of mouth, she went that night and picked out invitations online.  She even thanked me for suggesting it and bringing to her attention why it was important to have invites.  My mom would have reacted much differently.  I also realize that I just need to communicate with FMIL better and I shouldn't have assumed how she would react or what she would do so quickly (not just about the invites, but other things too).  Also, after stressing about where to have the bachelorette party, FMIL offered her house and thought it was an honor that I would consider having it there!  She continues to surprise me!!! 

Also, I have been shamelessly registry stalking... 

Meg1036

In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-31?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:2f49d1f4-d06b-4460-af87-3d0671d8d9d2Post:8e47a828-da73-4f26-b220-d249e6b0cffb">Re: Confessions/Vents</a>:
[QUOTE]I also realize that I just need to communicate with FMIL better and I shouldn't have assumed how she would react or what she would do so quickly
Posted by lcsnowflake[/QUOTE]

I need to get better about this with FFIL.

On that note, I vent that FIL's came to look at rehearsal dinner venues this weekend (they live in Maryland).  We looked at a few places, because there aren't many options big enough for all OOT guests (which FI and I thought FILs wanted).  We took all this time, at and the end, everyone liked different things, and I predicted 100% correctly in advance who would like what.  Also, in spite of the fact that we had all the information, FI didn't realized how big an RD for all OOT guests would be until we talked about it after his parents left (it would be 150+ guests of a 200 guest wedding).  So now he wants WP only, so none of the venues we looked at are even useful to us anymore.

I have officially sworn off being involved in any of the RD planning.

mrsbunyip

Apparently, not only is my MIL renewing her vows 5 weeks after our wedding, she is planning on doing it in the same Church as we are.  Just found this out right now.  She's not even Catholic and has only been to that Church to go to my mom's funeral.  I've been going to that Church since I was 6 years old, went to school there for 12 years, and graduated from its hugh school.  And DH wonders why I'm mad about it.  

It was already bad enough she's doing it 5 weeks after our wedding. Now she is using our Church and most of our WP, too?  

picklesmurphy

I confess I am seriously considering a honey fund registry. I know, I am a terrible person to not want dishes and a blender lol. Our house is 850 square feet, and we combined fully furnished homes 3ish years ago. Without a basement I have no place to store a third set of dishes, nor do I want to. I would rather people not buy me anything, but I know my family will just buy me random stuff if I don't register somewhere. We weren't planning a honeymoon because we can't afford one. I am tacky. I am broke. I don't want a new knife set.

-confession over-

klreese0213

i confess that lately i have felt REALLY guilty... i'm not sure why.. just this constant guilt feeling!! it's weird... perhaps it's because i feel like i'm wasting money on just one day.

my vent: i'm really hurt that my FFIL originally said he'd marry us and become an officiant but later had FMIL tell us "i think your dad would rather watch you get married".... FIL's are VERY religious and when we asked FFIL to marry us he mentioned pre marital counseling- but isn't that part of the appeal of a chapel/officiant. So obviously, we declined. Apparently that didn't sit well with him. And when he asked he laughed, it was a joke! everyone was laughing! But to accept then later decline!! it pi$$es me off big time!! but it's probably for the best because they are SO dramatic and will likely not come anyway.... i wouldn't be surprised.

sammichele

Confession/Vent: I have so much on my plate right now and I feel like I'll never be able to get everything done!  Not only just having to do with the wedding, but finishing up this semester, graduation, applying to graduate school, and applying for new jobs.  I'm starting to get a little stressed out over here.

amyn1919

Pickles: Go ahead and do a Honeymoon registry...just because it's "frowned upon" on the knot doesn't mean you can't do it...Everyone's situation is different and sometimes "etiquette" gets thrown out the window! Heck my finace is wearing a Camo vest and tie to the reception becasue he is a hillbilly and likes camo...so you do you and don't let anyone tell you you can't!!!

picklesmurphy

Thanks Amy. That makes me feel better. I love the camo by the way. I think my guys are wearing skull ties so yeah, take that convention!

zulamay

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!

If one more person asks me what state my FI and I are going to live in, I am going to pop them IN THE FACE!!!!  My bridesmaid just asked me AGAIN...I'm like, seriously!? Don't you think you'd know if WE knew!?

Screw this job market, I'm so sick of living in Iowa and Michigan, going to the airport, dealing with grabby TSA officials, getting yelled at by TSA officials, packing a suitcase, unpacking a suitcase, paying $60 in airport parking, paying 1/3 of my monthly income in airline tickets, never having groceries in my house because I leave town every weekend, etc. etc. etc.

Dear Cake Vendor, the noisy people in Bed, Bath, & Beyond, aunts, uncles, cousins, bridemaids, people at work, dude on the street, and anyone else who may just have some curiosity about how two people get married while living in two different states....When FI and I have selected a place to live, we will be sure to let you know.

And, I'll add in, once, when there was a great world war going on, people GOT MARRIED AND LIVED IN DIFFERENT COUNTRIES.  Mind blowing, isn't it!!?!?!

end vent.

Thumper1148

VENT: I am so emtional lately, and it has nothing to do with me.  A very good girlfriend is getting a divorce.  They had drifted apart over the years and the marriage had been over for at least the last 1 to 2 years. However, the husband decided a few years ago rather then get a divorce at that time, he would rather call up call girls and get it on with them.  Which he then contracted a STD and gave it to his wife, my friend.  He even admitted everything to her when he got caught.  It makes me so beyond angry.  Well, my friend told me and another friend (friend 2) about all of this last Sunday while in tears. 

When I got home FI asks how things went.  I didn't bother telling him the nasty details, just that the husband cheated.  Not that I am hiding things from FI, but really it's not my buisness to share all of my friends details with others.

Next day I get a call from my friend in tears.  The husband called the friend 2 that had heard the story.  And friend 2 told the husband everything that was talked about!!  What?!?!  I have no idea why.  The husband of course called my friend up and yelled at her and said she had no buisness telling others what happened.  He "advised" her that she should cut all contact from our group of friends and his family.

WTH?!  Personally if it had been me, I would be telling everyone what a dirty SOB he is.  My friend was in tears, she can't afford a lawyer and is worried that he won't continue to pay on debits they have together.

My stomach is in knots and I want to scream at her soon-to-be ex husband.  But I won't cause she would be even more upset.  I sent her a list of lawyers that do pro-bono work and low-income stuff.  I personally want to drag his name through the mud.  So angry and upset for her. 

I've had a rock in my stomach since Sunday.  I know it doesn't involve me, but I hate seeing my friends hurt.