So, I just found out that my MOH and best friend for the last 14 years may need to drop out of my wedding. The wedding is 7 1/2 weeks away. She lives in Minneapolis, so she has a lot of expense for getting out here on top of the normal BM expenses. This wasn't an issue for her-until now. She just found out yesterday that beginning in mid-May, she will be out of a job until August. She is an excutive assistant at the corporate office of a healtcare company. Apparently the nurses are going on strike, so they are making cuts at the administrative level. Needless to say, she will be out of receiving a paycheck for almost 3 months. She doesn't even know how she is going to pay her bills, let alone the expenses of the wedding. She is suppose to know more come Friday because they have meetings all this week about it, so nothing is set in stone yet. But, she wanted to give me a headsup so I knew what was going on. Finding a 6th person to be a BM is not a problem, its the fact that my best friend will not be standing next to me when I get married. She isn't even sure if she can get here for the wedding. My FI and I can not afford to help her in any way. She is planning on asking family for any help that they can offer, but I don't think they are in that great of a position to be helping her too much either. She has to cover her bills first then worry about my wedding, which I totally understand.
In terms of the bridal party-what would you do? Would you ask another person to join the BP? I have a close friend that I know would do it in a heartbeat. I couldn't have 7 BM's so I asked her to do a reading instead and be a part of all of the BP stuff. I could ask her to a BM and forget the reading at the ceremony if my MOH does have to drop out. Would you do that or just have the sides uneven? If my current MOH couldn't do it, I just wouldn't have one. My wedding planning and BM situations have not gone smoothly at all through this process. I'm just hoping for a decent outcome!