Which would you rather have for you bridesmaids....

elff20

My bridesmaid dresses are from Davids Bridal and there long and a satin Apple color which is a deep bright red. They have a modified sweet heart neckline.

Julz629

I didn't vote.  I vote OTHER:

I'd let them pick them as they may differ based on each girls' preference, hair styles, etc etc etc.  I like when different girls each choose accessories based on their personal styles.

rak123

I would just let them wear their own jewelry, and they can accessorize as they choose. 

Knottie1435582995

I voted IF I HAD to pick one of the options.

I would vote that you let them accessorize however they please.  If you do go with getting girls earrings, I'd be careful.  A lot of people are allergic to different metals and cannot wear certain earrings.  I was in a wedding recently where the bride bought us earrings and made us wear them for the wedding.  I ended up being allergic to them and couldn't wear earrings for 3 weeks after because my ears were so infected and angry. 

Julz629

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[QUOTE]I voted IF I HAD to pick one of the options. I would vote that you let them accessorize however they please.  If you do go with getting girls earrings, I'd be careful.  A lot of people are allergic to different metals and cannot wear certain earrings.  I was in a wedding recently where the bride bought us earrings and made us wear them for the wedding. <strong> I ended up being allergic to them and couldn't wear earrings for 3 weeks after because my ears were so infected and angry.</strong> 
Posted by melhunny[/QUOTE]

I didn't know your ears had emotions.  Crazy.

Gwenwhyfare

I also like the idea of letting your girls pick their own accessories. One less thing for you to worry about.

elff20

these are suppsed to be my bridesmaids gifts i want to give them

Julz629

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[QUOTE]these are suppsed to be my bridesmaids gifts i want to give them
Posted by elff20[/QUOTE]

I think most people on these boards will tell you that if you give them jewelry that you expect them to wear for the wedding, it's not really a gift for them...it's more a gift for you.  Personally, I have been in several weddings where I have received jewelry as a gift and I have never worn any of it again. 

In my opinion, you should get them a gift that each of them would personally like.  If it's jewelry, that's great.  But don't require them to wear it for the wedding.  Also, my guess is that the different girls have different tastes in jewelry.

Knottie1435582995

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would you rather have for you bridesmaids.... : I didn't know your ears had emotions.  Crazy.
Posted by jholbel[/QUOTE]

They do!  All of my body parts have emotions!

(PS - I had to read what I wrote TWICE before I got it)

elff20

I always that the bride was supposed to get there bridesmaid jewerly. Every friend that has gotten married that's what they have done so I assumed that's the way it was. I stood up in a friends wedding last year and I was expecting to get our jewelry and when we didn't I was pissed because now I had to spend money I didn't plan on spending and take a half day off work just to go find some jewerly. Thankfully the rehersal was 2 days prior to the wedding so I had the next day look for some.

I just didn't know

Julz629

You had to talk a half day off work to go find jewelry?? 

Also, I would never buy jewelry specifically for a wedding -- I have enough neutral looking pieces that I would wear something I already owned.

You should shop for the girls as if you were shopping for them for their birthday and get them a gift they would truly enjoy.  I got each of my girls clutches (not for the wedding), and then something else geared specifically towards them -- i.e. a magazine subscription, a book, nail polishes, etc.

Knottie1435582995

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[QUOTE]I always that the bride was supposed to get there bridesmaid jewerly. Every friend that has gotten married that's what they have done so I assumed that's the way it was. I stood up in a friends wedding last year and I was expecting to get our jewelry and when we didn't I was pissed because now I had to spend money I didn't plan on spending and take a half day off work just to go find some jewerly. Thankfully the rehersal was 2 days prior to the wedding so I had the next day look for some. I just didn't know
Posted by elff20[/QUOTE]

I've only ever gotten jewelry from one wedding I was in and it was just recently.  For every other wedding I stood up in, the BMs were responsible for getting their own jewelry either of their choosing or along the guidelines of the bride.  Personally, it kind of pissed me off to just get jewelry for my BM gift.  Not only was it jewelry I'd never wear again b/c I was allergic to the earrings, but it also was totally NOT my style.

For my wedding I did not give out jewelry and I told my girls they could wear whatever they wanted or nothing at all.  My MOH wore a necklace and earrings, the rest of the girls decided to go sans jewelry.

Julz629

Melanie brings up a good point....  I would let your girls know ahead of time if you aren't getting them jewelry so they can plan accordingly.  For example, I let my girls know that they could wear whatever black shoes they wanted and also that they were on their own for jewelry.  I wouldn't want my girls to be in the situation you were in where they were expecting jewelry and then had to go and get some last minute.

elff20

I wasn't just going to get them Jewelry i was going to get them something else as well....something that I think they would like. Thanks for the input

emarston1

Ack I got a hideous necklace as my "gift" for being a BM.  We had to wear them on the wedding day and it had pink and green butterflies on it.  It promptly went in to Good Will when I got home.

Not that I have a whole lot to add to this thread but the topic made me think of that awful necklace and I had to get it off my chest!

Julz629

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[QUOTE]Ack I got a hideous necklace as my "gift" for being a BM.  We had to wear them on the wedding day and it had pink and green butterflies on it.  It promptly went in to Good Will when I got home. Not that I have a whole lot to add to this thread but the topic made me think of that awful necklace and I had to get it off my chest!
Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]

Please tell me you have a picture of you in this necklace.

emarston1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would you rather have for you bridesmaids.... : Please tell me you have a picture of you in this necklace.
Posted by jholbel[/QUOTE]
I looked through the photos and there aren't any close ups (because why would you take a photo of someone's neck?)  But I found a few but it doesn't do the necklace justice to how awful it was.  It looks relatively normal in photos since all you can see is the cheap silver chain.

This is the best I can do (ignore the goofy look on FI-then BF's face):


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kristinandbill

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[QUOTE]I didn't vote.  I vote OTHER: I'd let them pick them as they may differ based on each girls' preference, hair styles, etc etc etc.  I like when different girls each choose accessories based on their personal styles.
Posted by jholbel[/QUOTE]

Ditto! 

I like incorporating a bit of each girls personality into the wedding.  Let them have a little individuality.

corinne2010

I had no idea everyone had such strong opinions toward getting jewelry as a gift. I went in this direction and all the girls just assumed I would get them jewelry so it kind of worked out. The jewelry is neutral and not over-bearing. Every wedding I've been in (5 of them), I've always gotten jewelry as the gift. I don't think I've ever gotten more than that though. I got my girls something extra with their jewelry so that's not all they're getting.

To answer the question though, I would get earring studs and a necklace. Something simple. If that's what you want to get your girls, then go for it.