My shower hosts are FI 6 aunts, yes, six, my MOH and my mom. One of his aunts the the take lead type of person. She is putting everything together, and delegating to the others what to bring and what to pitch in for hall rental. Because all the aunts are spending the same amount of money, should I get them all the same type, cost wise, of gift... Or should I spend more on the one who is doing the most as far as time is concerned? I was thinking about just getting them all a small candle and writing a nice thank you note. I am not sure if I should get her a larger candle... Or express my thanks in the form of the note with all the extra work she did. Of course I do not want word to get out and the other aunts to think I was giving her preferential treatment.