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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Not to play devil's advocate, but the shoes fit the description you gave them.  Also, those aren't hooker shoes.  Lady GaGa maybe but definitely not hooker. I actually think they are kinda cute (but I can't wear heels that high.)  They would be super cute with a pair of jeans and a cute top.

    And I know you are upset about the tattoo.  But I promise, it doesn't matter.  You picked her because you *theoretically* were close to her and wanted her in your wedding party.  A tattoo should not change that.

    Plus if it's on her back, it won't really show in photos.  Or if it really bothers you that much, buy them pashminas to wear and then it will be covered (but don't tell them that's your reason for having them).

    I'm sure your fiance is laughing because you are blowing this way out of proportion and it's funny.  Not saying that he should be laughing but I can understand why.
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_am-scream?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:737ef36c-cdb8-4ede-8169-30f06bdeb011Post:61f0dcaf-f378-447c-964e-b988e39d57b6">Re: I am about to scream!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh yeah, she was upset because I told her that she is not allowed to wear those shoes. She pretty much never wears heels, so I would love to see her even try to wear those for even a half hour. I'm picking the shoes and <strong>they can either buy the shoes or not effing show up! That's the bottom mother effin line!</strong>
    Posted by sweet_melissa81[/QUOTE]
    Wow.  Just wow.  They are mother effin' shoes.  No one is going to notice the shoes on your bridesmaids feet.  I repeat:  NO ONE IS GOING TO NOTICE THE SHOES ON YOUR BDIESMAIDS FEET.  This is not worth throwing a tantrum over and fighting with your friends.
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  • matuofmmatuofm member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_am-scream?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:737ef36c-cdb8-4ede-8169-30f06bdeb011Post:79548940-0e62-4f0e-ba68-76a6150e89f8">Re: I am about to scream!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I am about to scream! : Wow.  Just wow.  They are mother effin' shoes.  No one is going to notice the shoes on your bridesmaids feet.  I repeat:  NO ONE IS GOING TO NOTICE THE SHOES ON YOUR BDIESMAIDS FEET.  This is not worth throwing a tantrum over and fighting with your friends.
    Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]


    Seconded.
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  • rcj2rcdrcj2rcd
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    edited December 2011
    You need to take a breath and calm down. No one cares what shoes the BMs wear. They could be barefoot and no one would notice. As for the tattoo - you picked her to be a BM because she's your friend and is important to you - not because of tattoos she does or doesn't have. I do not care if my MOH gets a full sleeve tomorrow - who she is as a person is why I chose her. Acting like that towards your BM is wrong and disrespectful. If you continue to act like this you will have a WP of one - yourself.
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Andplusalso, my guess is that if you get this bent out of shape over shoes, you haven't been on your best behavior throughout wedding planning.  She may just be "poking the bear' as I like to say.  She may just be trying to get a rise out of you to piss you off.  Not saying that it's very mature but I can definitely see this as a possibility.
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, I know planning a wedding can be stressful - I've done it.  Successfully I might add.  And I didn't manage to piss off my best friends in the process (correct me if I'm wrong Molly - I know you're out there ;)

    I too let my girls pick out their shoes.  And you know what?  I cannot for the life of me remember what they looked like.  I know that they were silver because that's what I told them to wear.  But I have absolutely no idea what they looked like.  And neither do any of my guests.

    For the most part, wedding planning is only as stressful as you make it.  You are the one deciding to flip out over the shoes.  To me, there are much bigger things to be worried about than what my bridesmaids wore on their feet.  Or what they tattoo'd on their back.  Learn to pick your battles. 

    Also, we aren't attacking you--we just don't happen to agree with you.  There's a difference.  We are trying to get you to realize how immature you are behaving so you can correct it and not lose friendships over one day.  Because that's all a wedding is.  One day.  Keep your worries and your stress for the big ticket items, not the little things that in the end do not matter.
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  • acaponi87acaponi87 member
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    edited December 2011
    Other people's lives do not stop just because you are planning your wedding.  PP's are absolutely right.  Take a bath or smoke a cigarette or something and reevaluate how you are treating people around you (and on this board).
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  • sweet_melissa81sweet_melissa81
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    edited December 2011

    When I have been a bridesmaid. I did what I could do to help and didn't try to do things that would cause my friends added stress. If she told me to walk down the aisle in a peach dress and wear my hair in a bun. I did it. I did it with a smile because being a bridesmaid is an honor. Not a fashion show. I wouldn't wear heels that I couldn't walk in. I just would expect the same in return. This girl is my cousin and not a friend. If I would have know it would be l ike this I would have never asked them. Even my own mother told me not to ask to be in the wedding and said she would do things to ruin it, but I felt obligated because I had my other cousins in the wedding. I guess mom always knows best!

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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    This is my advice:  try to remember what this day is about.  It's about marrying that xbox playing, food tv show watching, asshole that you love.  (That was a joke BTW).

    If it doesn't involve, you, him, the officiant, or the marriage license, it will not stop you from getting married.  Those are the absolute most important things.  Even if everything else goes to hell, you will still be married at the end of the day which is the goal and purpose of the wedding.

    You are extremely stressed out when you don't need to be.  Why are you doing this to yourself?  Even if she is doing this to piss you off, you are the one that is deciding to react in this manner.  If you react like this to every.little.thing. that doesn't go according to "your plan" you are never going to make it through the next 10 months.  Not to mention your wedding day.  Relax, it will all be ok :)

    And you're right, it sounds like you shouldn't have asked her.  But you did and now she's in it.  Make the best of the situation and just let everything that she does roll off your back.  The best thing to do with people who are trying to annoy you, is to not get annoyed.  It pisses them off and if you stop reacting, they will stop trying to get you to react because it doesn't work.
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  • sweet_melissa81sweet_melissa81
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    edited December 2011

    We are having a Conservative Jewish wedding and my fiance's family has a lot of Orthodox Jews, so having a tattoo is kind of big deal and looked down upon in the Jewish religion. It's very taboo in our religion, so it is a deciding factor. If it can't be covered up during the entire wedding then she cannot be allowed to participate. She will just have to understand. Bottom line!

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  • sweet_melissa81sweet_melissa81
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    edited December 2011
    I am not going to post here anymore because I thought this was a "safe place" to vent instead of screaming at my fiance or going beserk. No one is perfect and we all get mad about stupid stuff every now again. I haven't known a single woman who hasn't blown up before her period or when she was under stress or when someone was pushing her buttions. Even if I am wrong, it's disturbing that no one felt compelled to be compassionate at first, instead straight out of the gate I got scolded.
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Just so you know, these are public forums--including the June 2012 board.  No one jumped down your throat or tore you to pieces.  We pointed out how you were acting very immaturely and suggested you behave differently to both A) get different results from your bridesmaid and B) for your own sanity.

    I'm sorry that you can't tell the difference but believe me, there is one.  I honestly hope that you are able to realize this because it will make your wedding planning far easier and less stressful.

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  • sweet_melissa81sweet_melissa81
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_am-scream?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:737ef36c-cdb8-4ede-8169-30f06bdeb011Post:79548940-0e62-4f0e-ba68-76a6150e89f8">Re: I am about to scream!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I am about to scream! : Wow.  Just wow.  They are mother effin' shoes.  No one is going to notice the shoes on your bridesmaids feet.  I repeat:  NO ONE IS GOING TO NOTICE THE SHOES ON YOUR BDIESMAIDS FEET.  This is not worth throwing a tantrum over and fighting with your friends.
    Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]

    This wasn't jumping down my back or scolding me? You're typing in all caps, you're judging me and telling me I'm acting immaturely. Of course, I have the right to be defensive when you come at me like that!
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    No I said your behavior was immature.  I didn't call you immature.  There's a difference.

    Also, no I don't think that was jumping down your throat.  I was trying to get my point across that they were only shoes.  I wasn't screaming at you (although looking back I see how it looks that way so for that I'm sorry). 

    And about the tattoo thing - that would bave been pertinent information to include in your original post.  I can understand your concerns because of the customs in Jewish tradition.  But you didn't mention that in your post so there is no way we could have known that.

    If you look through this thread, you get a lot of great advice about covering up the tattoo and learning to relax.
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  • emilynnpemilynnp
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    edited December 2011
    It sounds like you already have a solution to half of your problem by choosing a shoe for all of your BMs since you did not like the platform shoe. However, there is nothing you can do regarding your BMs choice to get a tattoo. You can get upset about it, but that won't be terribly productive and in the end we all have to let go of the things we have no control over. The pashmina is an excellent idea or simply choosing a style of dress that is more full-coverage on the back, which might be more fitting with a conservative ceremony or if she has long hair, ask her to wear it down.Anyway, try not to let yourself get so "butthurt" about the suggestions people offer on the internet. If you agree, take it, if you disagree, leave it, NBD. Good luck!
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  • shaneikawshaneikaw member
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    edited December 2011

    WOW ok ladies let's calm down.

    Melissa I think that you are upset about some things that are going on with the planning of the wedding and the tattoo and the shoes just pushed you overboard.  Which is understandable planning a wedding is very stressful and no one expect that you would not have a blowout what I have been trying to do is just place that anger into doing something else like walking.


    Just take a step back and look at the big picture like someone said your cousin may be doing things just to get under your skin, b/c if you have not picked the dress how do she know the shoes that would look good with the dress, and you said yourself she don't even wear heels like that.  Also if she get the tattoo and the dress that you all pick out show her back, which I'm sure it won't since this is going to be conservative and at a church you can get the tattoo make up to cover up the tattoo.  Don't stop posting on the board we all are in this together maybe we can choose our words a little bit better or differently so no one feelings are hurt or feel that they can not express themselves. Wink

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  • sweet_melissa81sweet_melissa81
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you shaneikaw and emilynnp... I know I probably shouldn't have gotten so defensive and it's no excuse, but I have been under a lot of stress lately and think these other things have just caused my stress level to increase x10. I won't post all my other personal stuff too, but I just had to give my mom and brother money so they could eat. I am not trying to make myself sound like an angel or that I deserve a pat on the back, but my family is struggling right now and I just wish that I didn't have to worry about other things like my cousin getting a tattoo or wearing sparkly 5 1/2 inch hills covered in sparkles.
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  • shaneikawshaneikaw member
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    edited December 2011
    And you know what Melissa I understand that there are a lot of people struggling right now and we all have to do things to help others to just keep afloat (well I know I do) so I can understand about the misplaced anger everyone have bad days and your entitled to one as well. That's why you have to look at the good things so that the bad don't weigh you down too much and you can enjoy the fact that you are getting married and it's to a man that you love and you all will be able to enjoy life together after the wedding.  The good thing is that you are planning ahead and you have time for errors so that you can make things right ahead of time.   Just a word of advise that I use for the wedding planning and everyday life.  DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF!!!! If you just want to vent and not necessarily to the board you can inbox me or shout me out I will email you back I work midnights so I'm up all night.

    Oh and by the way I understand about that FI being on the games, with mine it's the laptop and I swear some days I just want to throw that thing out of the window!!!!!
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm am very sorry that you are going through such difficult times with your family.  I could not imagine what it must be like to have to give money to your family just so they can eat.  No one should have to experience that.

    But that situation also gives you a lot of perspective.  That is a situation that is worth getting stressed/worried about.  Don't make your life any more stressful than it already is by worrying about your cousin who is trying to annoy you.  You are going through a lot right now and making life more difficult than it needs to be.  Easier said than done obviously.

    Trust me when I say that by not reacting, it will piss her off (and is sweet vindication for you.)  It took me YEARS to learn this but when it finally clicked, life got so much easier.  My brother and I used to have a very fight-y relationship until I learned that he was only ever trying to get a rise out of me.  He enjoyed seeing me annoyed and upset (very mature of him  obviously).  But once I stopped reacting the way he wanted me to, it wasn't fun for him anymore so he stopped.

    And if she ends up wearing shoes you hate on your wedding day, it won't ruin it.  You will be so relieved that your wedding day is finally here that nothing will matter anymore.  You see it all the time with brides posting that they are in their final weeks and things just stop mattering.  They just want to be married already.  The same thing will happen to you.

    Everything will work out, I promise.  Good luck with your family and I don't want you to stop posting.
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  • Meg1036Meg1036
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    edited December 2011
    Look, I'm really sorry you are stressed, and very VERY sorry about your family's troubles.  I will echo others, and say to put it in perspective.  The shoes match your description, and if you change your mind on them now, or kick a bridesmaid out over a tattoo, you will be labeled a bridezilla by your cousin.  If the officiant has a problem with the tattoo, you can give her a pashmina to wear; if the officiant doesn't have a problem with it, your fiance's family will just have to deal.  They're not in charge of whether or not the marriage happens, and not everyone likes everyone else.

    My bridesmaids all picked their own shoes.  Its fine.  I couldn't tell you what a single one looked like.  Ditto for their jewelry.  And you can hardly see the in the pictures.

    Also, FWIW, this is generally a supportive board, and the posters who gave you advice here are well-respected.  On TK in general, you sometimes get different responses than you want or are expecting.  When that happens, its generally frowned on to go running to other boards to "tattle" or find validation.  Its a public forum, and wouldn't you rather have internet strangers warn you not to do something, than alienate members of your family and/or bridal party by overreacting to extrernal stress or small (and I do mean small) details about the wedding?

    Good luck with your planning; you will have a beautiful wedding, platform shoes, tattoo and all.

    PS.  Just because a bride for a wedding you were in dictated your hairstyle and you were happy to comply to does not make it ok.
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  • Meg1036Meg1036
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    edited December 2011
    Also, something goes wrong at everyone's wedding, so get used to that idea.

    Thing that didn't ruin my wedding: my organist forgot to show up.

    Thing that didn't ruin the wedding of a girl on my month board: finding out less than 24 hours in advance that she wouldn't be able to get to her venue due to Hurricane Irene: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2011-weddings_irene-canceled-wedding
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  • sweet_melissa81sweet_melissa81
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    edited December 2011

    I get where you all are coming from when you say they're just shoes and all that but I will be 30 years old next month. I'm not 18 and I'm no fuddy duddy, but those shoes are unreasonable! In all honesty, I do think she would attempt to wear those shoes and she would not be able to walk in those, so she'll end up being barefoot and tripping over her dress because it's too long and when she has it altered she has to wear those shoes. It takes a lot of training to wear heels over 5" high and she's not a very lttle girl, she would be wobbling and uncomfortable during photos. I'm paying a lot of money for this and I deserve to have things look somewhat decent.

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  • sweet_melissa81sweet_melissa81
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_am-scream?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:737ef36c-cdb8-4ede-8169-30f06bdeb011Post:acbb4b85-1b38-473f-a3d4-75964a74449d">Re: I am about to scream!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Also, something goes wrong at everyone's wedding, so get used to that idea. Thing that didn't ruin my wedding: my organist forgot to show up . Thing that didn't ruin the wedding of a girl on my month board: finding out less than 24 hours in advance that she wouldn't be able to get to her venue due to Hurricane Irene: <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2011-weddings_irene-canceled-wedding" rel='nofollow'>http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2011-weddings_irene-canceled-wedding</a>
    Posted by Meg1036[/QUOTE]

    Her situation is an act of god which she has no control over and mine is act of stupidity on my bm part!
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  • Jacks2913Jacks2913
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    edited December 2011
    Don't feel like you're being attacked on here, most people are just trying to help but sometimes they can come off rude. I think it's perfectly fine to vent & let it all out. When I get worked up about something, I find it best to just step back and breathe for a minute. The issue at hand is NOT going to ruin your entire wedding. If the shoes are such an issue, you can always pick out a pair and ask that all the BM's purchase those. As far as the tattoo goes, they sell stuff to cover those up. Trying to control her choices is only going to make her rebell more. Remember that it costs a lot of money to stand up in weddings & you should feel honored as well that she agreed to do it. So try not to worry, it will all work out!!! At the end of the day, it's all about the man you love & getting to spend the rest of your life with him. I promise you'll look back at this and laugh!!
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  • Meg1036Meg1036
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_am-scream?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:737ef36c-cdb8-4ede-8169-30f06bdeb011Post:f2ed4f67-9734-4ffd-8cfb-68a7d96f4e6c">Re: I am about to scream!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I am about to scream! : Her situation is an act of god which she has no control over and mine is act of stupidity on my bm part!
    Posted by sweet_melissa81[/QUOTE]

    You're not getting the point.  The point is, you can't control everything.  And even if your current problem is something you can control, you're going to upset your bridesmaid, who you presumably want to have a relationship with after the wedding, by trying to control it.   This just doesn't matter.  And it matters a hell of a lot less than your venue, photographer, officiant, etc.  So let it go.

    This is easily the most out of control post I have ever seen on this board.
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  • picklesmurphypicklesmurphy
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to Re: I am about to scream!:
     I'm sure your fiance is laughing because you are blowing this way out of proportion and it's funny.  Not saying that he should be laughing but I can understand why.
    Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]


    Wow. I missed the initial post, but if someone said this to me as I was about to scream I would be furious. This is why when I have personal crap I try to not post it here. I love this board for the references, and there are some very nice people here, but some think themselves experts on all things. I try to be nice and try to understand where the poster is coming from before I respond, but not all do. I think the knot is a good tool, but nothing more. Good luck.
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_am-scream?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:737ef36c-cdb8-4ede-8169-30f06bdeb011Post:44abc9fd-da0a-48ca-9dcf-51d226767d94">Re: I am about to scream!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow. I missed the initial post, but if someone said this to me as I was about to scream I would be furious. <strong>This is why when I have personal crap I try to not post it here</strong>. I love this board for the references, and there are some very nice people here, but <strong>some think themselves experts on all things</strong>. I try to be nice and try to understand where the poster is coming from before I respond, but not all do. I think the knot is a good tool, but nothing more. Good luck.
    Posted by picklesmurphy[/QUOTE]

    1.  I agree with this.  As soon as you make it public, you are opening yourself up to comments you might not want to hear.  As was the case in this particular post.  When I have a fight with DH, do I post it anywhere on the internet?  Absolutely not.  You can't take it back once it's out there.

    2.  Speaking only for myself, I don't consider myself an expert in anything.  But I have planned a wedding and being on "the other side" gives me a little perspective that those who haven't had their weddings yet might not have.  Although my advice would have been absolutely the same even if I was still in the midst of planning.  But that's all it is:  advice and opinions.  No one has to listen to me (or anyone else) when I comment and I'm ok with people not liking my advice or opinions.  What I'm not ok with?  Being told to go to hell.

    Also, the nature of internet forums is that you can't dictate the types of responses you get.  But you can predict the type of response you'll get based on your post.  If Melissa hadn't deleted/edited most of her comments in this thread, you could see why people responded the way they did (whether you agree or disagree with it is another story).  If she (or anyone) just comes in saying, "I know this is ridiculus but it's really bugging me and I need to get it off my chest", things would not have gone down the way they did.  But the fact she came in guns blazing against her bridesmaid (whom we had no backstory on) saying essentially "my way or the highway" is why we all responded the way we did.  Her original post was just condemning her bridesmaid for wanting a tattoo and buying shoes and how those two small decisions were going to ruin her wedding.  Also, she called her fiance an a-hole.

    It was only after that she went back to explain the backstory of why she was so stressed (family issues) and particular issues with this bridesmaid in general.

    Also, I guess I worded my response wrong because I didn't mean to say I necessarily thought it was funny just that I could see why he might.  So that's my piece.
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  • matuofmmatuofm member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_am-scream?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:737ef36c-cdb8-4ede-8169-30f06bdeb011Post:44abc9fd-da0a-48ca-9dcf-51d226767d94">Re: I am about to scream!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I am about to scream! :  I'm sure your fiance is laughing because you are blowing this way out of proportion and it's funny .   Not saying that he should be laughing but I can understand why. Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE] Wow. I missed the initial post, but if someone said this to me as I was about to scream I would be furious. This is why when I have personal crap I try to not post it here. I love this board for the references, and there are some very nice people here, but some think themselves experts on all things. I try to be nice and try to understand where the poster is coming from before I respond, but not all do. I think the knot is a good tool, but nothing more. Good luck.
    Posted by picklesmurphy[/QUOTE]

    *disclaimer - this is not aimed at you, pickles: it's a general statement about the thread meant for the public at large.  :).*

    In general, I'd agree with you, pickles.  But in this case, having read the original posts, I have to agree with Liz.  OP posted a rant which I'd say qualified as a full-blown temper tantrum, because her bridesmaid (1) is getting a tattoo (a year before their wedding) and (2) picked a pair of shoes which, while not the classiest ever, completely met the requirements which were given to her.  There was extensive use of swearing, caps lock, and a small paragraph on the general laziness and uselessness of her FI.    She then seemed to want validation for her behavior/opinion.

    People come to this board to rant because they expect it to be a supportive environment.  But I don't think that we have a responsibility to support someone who's behaving in an abusive, selfish, or otherwise nasty manner.  In fact, as fellow human beings, I think we have a responsiblity to NOT support others when they are behaving badly.  In OP's case, I felt somewhat verbally attacked just <strong><em>reading</em></strong> her post.  I was shocked at the level of venom that it was possible to conjure up over the subject of a pair of shoes. 

    It's probably an unpopular opinion, but I believe that we are NOT all entitled to our opinions.   I believe that some opinons are horrendously selfish and nasty, and have no place being aired publicly.  I believe that when we are upset, we are entitled to vent to sympathetic ears.  But it is never appropriate to throw a temper tantrum, nor to expect others to join in to validate your rage.  Was Liz's comment the correct thing to say to put out the "fire" of the argument?  No.  But was it accurate?  I'd say yes, except for one qualm - I don't really see anything truly funny about OP's behavior - I found it a little too disturbing to be funny.

    Just my thoughts.
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  • courtney1188courtney1188 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_am-scream?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:737ef36c-cdb8-4ede-8169-30f06bdeb011Post:359e6273-e833-40f3-b1f0-e998d5ff08df">I am about to scream!</a>:
    [QUOTE]GO TO HELL
    Posted by sweet_melissa81[/QUOTE]

    Well, way to have me against you before even reading the thread to see what you needed help with! Emarston continued to give you good advice and be patient even when you were being completely unreasonable and blowing up at her.

    You're being completely unreasonable about the shoes - they are just shoes. Whether you're 15 or 50, shoes are shoes - they really don't matter all that much with all of the things in a wedding. And you knew she had the tattoo when you asked, so you're going to have to live with it being there. The way you've talked to the girls on here is like a 3 year old who isn't getting her way - it's completely immature and bratty. Say that's attacking you, but it's true of your behavior, and a lot less worse than telling people to go to hell.

    The girls here will always lend a sympathetic ear and seem to only offer a dissenting opinion if the OP is outrageously overreacting, which you are. Your family doesn't even have food to eat, and your top priority that you need to vent about is your bridesmaids' tattoo and shoes? Yeah, I don't think 'mean' girls on the internet are your problem.
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