Confessions/Vents

emarston1

Let's hear 'em!

crhein26

I confess that I am really sad that my wedding is over because I'm finishing up with the planning.  Just a few last things to finish.  I also confess that I am getting ready to build a house so I will get to plan all of that fun stuff.

My last confession:  I LOVE our mod!  Liz is the best.  She is always willing to help out.  Even though she got married quite some time ago, she still can pull out all her wedding info to help a girl out! 

emarston1

Aww thanks for the love chica!  It's nice to know it's appreciated   Also, it's completely natural to be a little sad that planning is over.  My mom made the comment to me that I now needed to find a new hobby  

But the house is so exciting!  When does that process start?  It's definitely fun to plan out your dream house and hopefully make that happen!

Vent:  I have a major headache.  I might just have to close my door for most of the day even though I've been really good about keeping it open (my new year's resolution).

Confession:  I've been having a lot of whacky dreams lately.  A few nights ago I was on a science field trip to Bora Bora with my best friend.  We were supposed to go snorkeling and see the manta rays that were the size of the entire island.  I woke up before we had the chance to snorkle.

Last night involved a bunch of people from highschool that I wasn't even friends with.  I don't remember the dream but I remember waking up and being like WTF? Where did those people come from?!

entropicbeauty

Vent: I'm angry that I've only asked FI to do a very few things to help get things in order for the wedding. For the past week I've asked him to do only ONE thing - call and confirm with all the hotels we're looking at what the rate is they want to offer us and what would be included with a hotel block...that's it! ONE THING! And he did not get around to it. He is home ALL day (he has classes at night) during normal business hours so he has PLENTY of time to call, and now I'm just going to have to do it on my lunch break. Freakin' ridiculous.

I confess that I don't think FI is going to get his act together on any of the items I asked him to help out with for the wedding and it makes me slightly resentful that he can't do even these simple tasks for us.

Meegles4

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[QUOTE]Vent: I'm angry that I've only asked FI to do a very few things to help get things in order for the wedding. For the past week I've asked him to do only ONE thing - call and confirm with all the hotels we're looking at what the rate is they want to offer us and what would be included with a hotel block...that's it! ONE THING! And he did not get around to it. He is home ALL day (he has classes at night) during normal business hours so he has PLENTY of time to call, and now I'm just going to have to do it on my lunch break. Freakin' ridiculous. I confess that I don't think FI is going to get his act together on any of the items I asked him to help out with for the wedding and it makes me slightly resentful that he can't do even these simple tasks for us.
Posted by entropicbeauty[/QUOTE]

Oh, honey, I hear you. I know we all have different experiences, but overall in my case, FI has been mostly uninvolved and I haven't tasked him with anything. If I ask him to join me at a vendor meeting, he will come, but I don't ask him to help with anything "independently". Shoot, he can't even get around to getting the rest of the addresses that he needs to get for the wedding.

Last night I had a second set of invitation proofs that I wanted him to look at b/c he's leaving town for the rest of the week and I'm finalizing them before he gets back. He went to the bedroom and fell asleep, so when I made my way back there he woke up. I sat down next to him and started showing him the proofs and he's asking for his phone (which is on the nightstand next to me). I said no, that I'd give it to him in 5 minutes. He's like "GEEZ, I just want to set my alarm." and I'm all "GEEZ, don't you think you'll remember to do that when I give you the phone when we're done with this conversation?" And then we got all bickery with each other.

Bottom line, in most cases, they just aren't that interested in the details, nor do they have any motivation to really help accomplish things. I think they just have a different view and don't feel like there needs to be all this hulabaloo about the day.

It's frustrating though. Could your mom or a friend help with some of these pesky details to take some of the pressure off of your to-do list?

P.S. - I guess my vent is in here, already. See above re: annoying fiances who only want to play on their phones instead of have ACTUAL conversations. When I finally did give the man his phone, did he set his alarm right away? No. He checked his e-mail and farted around on it.

lesley909

thank you ladies for making me feel like i am not alone.
vent: fi says its all we talk about, well i wouldn't need to ask you 37987432 times about 1 thing if you would be on your phone or 1/2 listening to me and just make a freaking decision. also, his one thing to do is make a play list for the dj, he hasnt even started i am also thinking about registering alone this weekend because he doesnt see the point in it, he doesnt think we need anything.

Milsey32

Liz - I had a dream last year that involved people from HS that I wasn't even friends with and I was really weirded out because I wasn't FB friends with them/they weren't brought up in conversation recently. It was strange. 

Vent - I'm annoyed that the tips of my big toes hurt. DH is exchanging my new FiveFingers (shoes) for a bigger size. I'm also annoyed that I feel like I haven't slept enough but I know I have. 

Confession - I do not want to do hw. At all. But since we're going OOT this weekend, I have to get it all done by tomorrow night... Ugh. 

Confession#2 - I WANT IT TO BE JULY (less classes, a tan, and a new job, hopefully!)

lesley909

milsey omg a tan = sun and now i am day dreaming thanks 

Milsey32

Lesley, which drivers license photo do you think I took in the summer and which one did I take in the winter?! 

Thumper1148

Vent - Tired of working late nights.  I have wedding stuff to do at home.  Getting home at 8 and having to be in bed by 9 for bootcamp, does not leave me a lot of time to work on anything!

lauraprevost

@milsey - The difference in your pics is kind of funny! I wish I could get that tan...I look like your "winter" picture basically all year long! You're lucky though because both of your DL pictures are cute, mine looks ridiculous.


Confession: I confess that I have a 20 page paper due next Tuesday and I haven't started yet. I was supposed to get up at 8am today and work on it all day since I have the whole day off, however I got up at 8am and have been sitting around procrastinating for the past 3 hours.

Vent:  My sister is annoying the crap out of me lately. She has no respect for my parents or our house. She literally throws her crap all over. How hard is it to pick up after yourself? The other day my Mom was home all day and cleaned the entire house. She left to go get lunch, my sister came home from work for a few minutes and destroyed the house before my mom got back. Literally like had a bunch of dishes all over the kitchen, school books spread out in the living room, a blanket and pillow were thrown on the stairs going upstairs and she had a bunch of paper work all over the table. When my Mom said something to her about it, she started yelling at my Mom about how she never has time to clean up, she is so busy, blah blah blah, excuse excuse excuse .... UGGGGHH. I could go on forever, but I'll stop. So annoying.

LOTON01

Who the hell said registering was fun??/ I hate it!!! After the horrible experience we had at Macys we went to bed bath & Beyond last night. I again hated it.

This lady never let me touch the gun. Isn't that the best part of registering?

Then she walked us around the entire store. She took us to what departments she wanted us to start in and showed us what she liked best and what she thought we needed. When we didn't pick what she wanted she just stood there waiting for us to decide. I felt pressured to make a choice. She acted so disappointed when I didn't want to register for certain things. I didn't really want to register for new pillows but she told me oh you will be disappointed if you don't.

By the time we left 3 hours later. I felt over whelmed crabby and I don't even think I like the bedding I picked. Ugh

lesley909

milsey that made me even more sad that its cold and yucky out and not 80 and sunny BOOOOOOO

baileyleev

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[QUOTE]Who the hell said registering was fun??/ I hate it!!! After the horrible experience we had at Macys we went to bed bath & Beyond last night. I again hated it. This lady never let me touch the gun. Isn't that the best part of registering? Then she walked us around the entire store. She took us to what departments she wanted us to start in and showed us what she liked best and what she thought we needed. When we didn't pick what she wanted she just stood there waiting for us to decide. I felt pressured to make a choice. She acted so disappointed when I didn't want to register for certain things. I didn't really want to register for new pillows but she told me oh you will be disappointed if you don't. By the time we left 3 hours later. I felt over whelmed crabby and I don't even think I like the bedding I picked. Ugh
Posted by LOTON01[/QUOTE]
Which store did you go to? This is horrible and is not at all how BB&B is supposed to do this. FI is a manager for them, and would be horrified to hear this!<div>
</div><div>Hopefully you can go online and pick the things you love, or try a different store. So sorry :(</div><div>
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</div><div>Vent: FI is driving me crazy, he hasn't done anything for the wedding (and it seems he's not the only one after reading the other posts) he did however start installing hardwood floors in our new house...unfortunately they didn't finish and his dad will be on the road until a couple days before the wedding (which he thinks will be when he installs them...NO WAY) Seriously...not going to happen, and I DO NOT want them installing them right after the wedding...kill me. </div><div>
</div><div>Confession: I am seriously upset we didn't just elope like I wanted to...my family is driving me insane. </div>

entropicbeauty

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/Vents : Oh, honey, I hear you. I know we all have different experiences, but overall in my case, FI has been mostly uninvolved and I haven't tasked him with anything. If I ask him to join me at a vendor meeting, he will come, but I don't ask him to help with anything "independently". Shoot, he can't even get around to getting the rest of the addresses that he needs to get for the wedding. Last night I had a second set of invitation proofs that I wanted him to look at b/c he's leaving town for the rest of the week and I'm finalizing them before he gets back. He went to the bedroom and fell asleep, so when I made my way back there he woke up. I sat down next to him and started showing him the proofs and he's asking for his phone (which is on the nightstand next to me). I said no, that I'd give it to him in 5 minutes. He's like "GEEZ, I just want to set my alarm." and I'm all "GEEZ, don't you think you'll remember to do that when I give you the phone when we're done with this conversation?" And then we got all bickery with each other. Bottom line, in most cases, they just aren't that interested in the details, nor do they have any motivation to really help accomplish things. I think they just have a different view and don't feel like there needs to be all this hulabaloo about the day. It's frustrating though. Could your mom or a friend help with some of these pesky details to take some of the pressure off of your to-do list? P.S. - I guess my vent is in here, already. See above re: annoying fiances who only want to play on their phones instead of have ACTUAL conversations. When I finally did give the man his phone, did he set his alarm right away? No. He checked his e-mail and farted around on it.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

See, I know that most men aren't interested, it's driving me crazy because he INSISTS that he <em>wants</em> to help and there are things he really cares about that I don't...for instance, the hotels - he wanted to check around to all these places, and I said lets just block off rooms at the freakin' holiday inn, it doesn't need to be fancy!

Well guess what? I am calling today to just block off the rooms at the holiday inn! I told him last week if he didn't get around to it finally I was just going to step in. We're getting married on a holiday weekend and blocking off rooms will be a hassle if we wait much longer!

I just wish he was more on top of his game I guess - I should go a bit easier on him because he's finally back in school after 6 years of NOT being in school, but I feel like I get 50 different things done in a day and he can't even accomplish one, so it's frustrating.

carpediem27

I confess that I am feeling pretty lucky in the FI involvement area after reading some of the above posts. FI has been more than helpful and involved. He made most of the venue appointments for us and he has come with me to all the vendor meetings. He helped me design the invites and the centerpieces. I am not trying to brag, I am just feeling thankful.

Milsey32

Laura, I worked 2 jobs last summer to help pay for the wedding. That means 70+ hours a week outside. And I'm fortunate to never really burned... (but will most likely get cancer if I keep this up!) - P.S. the post about your sister bothers me. I understand not having a perfectly well-kept house but I agree, it's not that hard to pick up after yourself!

Lesley, DH really wants to move. I like the idea of 80 and sunny year round... 

Lauren, that's SUCKS you had another horrible registering experience. Ours wasn't that exciting, like I hoped it was going to be. Oh well. 

acaponi87

I have an F'n UTI and I wanna kill someone.

MMRoberts11

Work this week has sucked and I'm so over being here.  Everyone in the lab is leaving in the next few months for other things (new jobs/school) so we all know the end is near.  We recently had the "let's do this, this, and this and then we'll be done" talk so mentally I'm ready to leave way too early.  Plus I'm starting to look for new positions and put my resume out there.  I'll be honest, if I get an interview and get hired I'll leave early even though my contract says July currently.