Ideas to honor mom

July032011

So as we get into wedding planning it is clear my mom is feeling a little tiny bit left out.  I am 100% a daddys girl.  He gets the walk down the isle at the ceremony and a dance at the reception. Is there anything little and subtle I can do to honor my mom and make her feel a little more included? TIA any ideas wil be appreciated!

emarston1

I don't know if you are doing a unity candle but often times the mom's light the separate candles that the couple then uses to light the main one.  She could do that.

Also, I know my mom will be seated last before the bridal procession walks down.  But my mom doesn't like to be in the spotlight so I know this is going to be enough for her.

BridetobeJenG

Agree with Liz. My mom and Dan's mom are having mom time preparing our sand (instead of unity candle) and then my mom is being seated last as well.

You could always ask her to say a few words at the RHD or at the actual reception.

rcj2rcd

We aren't doing a unity candle, but during the ceremony, we will each be sharing the sign of peace with our moms. I've also heard that some people present their moms with a small bouquet during the ceremony or have their moms do a reading.

My mom doesn't have a big part in the ceremony or reception, but I know that it will mean more to her that I take a few seconds to reflect with her and "cherish the moment" (as she would say) before the ceremony and at the reception.

If you're worried that your mom doesn't feel included, then maybe verbalize to her that she is an important part of the day and you are lucky to have her there. If someone feels left out, they may just need the reinforcement that they are important.

abbeylynne06

Is your mom feeling left out about not having more part in the wedding itself, or in the planning?

If it's the planning part, maybe you could make a day of going out and looking for a MOB dress.  Or invite your mom along to an appointment with the florist or the baker.  You obviously don't need her there, but it might help her to feel more included if she knows you value her opinion in those things.

Our moms carried up the unity sand containers.  Or, like PP said, maybe you could take time to acknowledge your moms during the ceremony with a hug or a flower.

Sue-n-Kevin

Without knowing more about your mom Susan, hard to say what would work. Here are my thoughts:

- Maybe a couple of days before the wedding, just the 2 of you go for a manicure or pedicure
- I agree regarding going shopping for her MOB dress, and maybe lunch together.
- Make sure to have HER help you get ready for the wedding, and have the photographer take lots of pics.........helping you with your dress, jewelry, etc

- Maybe on the day of your wedding, pick her up early and the 2 of you go out to breakfast and tell her how much she means to you, what you've learned from her about being a woman, etc. If this isn't possible with the timeframe, maybe write her a letter telling her the same. Give the letter to her when just tshe 2 of you are together.

Be sure to ask her opinion regarding the wedding plans as well. I show my Mom all my plans whenever she is at my house, any new things I've purchased, etc.

July032011

Thanks ladies.  You're right maybe she is feeling a little left out of the planning.  I will have her come to my cake tasting appointments next month. Love the idea of of breakfast too!
Totally forgot about the unity candles or sand too!

Thanks again!

aliciadiane

I am having both mom and dad walk me down the aisle. I am such a daddy's girl, but my mom is the one who raised me and has always been there for me, it wouldn't feel right if she wasn't part of giving me away.

Milsey32

I picked out my wedding dress but didn't purchase it until my mom could come and look at it.. her mom didn't do much in planning her wedding and even though I'm reeeeally independent, I know she loves feeling helpful (especially since I'm her youngest and first to get married). Thanks so much everyone for helping ME realize that there are more opportunities for her to feel included in the planning and the actual wedding itself. lol best regards to all you xoxo