Confessions/vents 6/6

MMRoberts11

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bee&bee

Confession - I'm SOO over wedding planning and decision making.  Thank goodness this all ends on Friday!! ) 20 months is way too long of an engagment (at least for me).  I seriously am so excited to marry my love and finally move in to our condo.  It will all be bittersweet but in a very good way.  YAY for the big day finally being here!!!!

acaponi87

Vent: If one more person bothers me about a seating chart or which group of people goes at a certain table or "when will the escort cards be done?" I will go crazy. What part of I WILL TAKE CARE OF IT do you not understand? I will do it when it is convient for me. I don't personally feel like doing it right now because I know that in 4 days I will probably have more people tell me that they can't come and then have to change everything. So I'm waiting. It's mostly done..shut the hell up everyone there's nothing else you need to do (even if you feel like you are entitled to do it).

Confession: Also I am kind of excited about FI's bachelor party this weekend. Originally I was annoyed due several things but now I am pumped that I get to stay in OH by myself and just relax. I am really quite sick of people at this point in the process and next week will be bad. I plan on laying by the pool and possibly playing volleyball. Though the last time I played I discovered that the sand is very rough and diving of any sort results in some nasty scabs so I may need to hold off.

indieglam

Vent - Make sure you get everything in writing!!! It's been said many, many, many times, but it's so true.

We were originally told that we would have up to a week in advance to set up our venue, but more likely would just need to use Thursday, Friday, and the day of to set up. We just found out that another event is taking place the Thursday before and set up won't be able to begin until late afternoon Friday, a couple hours before the rehearsal. This really throws things off, since we've planned a lot of stuff to set up. I'm not even sure when we would have found out this information if I hadn't asked about the Friday rehearsal times. Luckily, we have about three and a half months to go and I hired a DOC who will be able to help with set up.

entropicbeauty

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-66-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:9890aeeb-e3e1-4fa1-b2f4-64f57a4225e6Post:01b9d678-e2e2-4a7b-bb28-0d28d67349ee">Re: Confessions/vents 6/6</a>:
[QUOTE]Vent - Make sure you get everything in writing!!! It's been said many, many, many times, but it's so true. We were originally told that we would have up to a week in advance to set up our venue, but more likely would just need to use Thursday, Friday, and the day of to set up. We just found out that another event is taking place the Thursday before and set up won't be able to begin until late afternoon Friday, a couple hours before the rehearsal. This really throws things off, since we've planned a lot of stuff to set up. I'm not even sure when we would have found out this information if I hadn't asked about the Friday rehearsal times. Luckily, we have about three and a half months to go and I hired a DOC who will be able to help with set up.
Posted by indieglam[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>When is your wedding date again? I'm real annoyed with Pat and I can't figure out certain things that I sort of NEED to know! Last time I was there she was talking about how the Kitchen was "open" but not "done" and I have NO CLUE what that means?! I guess I now need to verify that there isn't another event the week before my wedding to verify I will indeed get the time I need to set up?! Ugh.

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jillza

Vent: The venue that I want is overpriced and now I feel like I am back to square one. 

Further, we didn't tell people about the wedding for a reason! But my Stepdad had to tell his sister and now she is offering to cook and badgering me with questions and criticisms of my choices or lack thereof.

Confession: I am seriously considering just making this a wedding and not trying to make it a surprise anymore because I cannot tell if it's helping or hindering. 

indieglam

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/vents 6/6 : When is your wedding date again? I'm real annoyed with Pat and I can't figure out certain things that I sort of NEED to know! Last time I was there she was talking about how the Kitchen was "open" but not "done" and I have NO CLUE what that means?! I guess I now need to verify that there isn't another event the week before my wedding to verify I will indeed get the time I need to set up?! Ugh.
Posted by entropicbeauty[/QUOTE]

<div>September 22nd. And ditto on the annoyance. I'm going to PM you now; I'm not sure I want to fully vent my annoyance/frustration here.</div>

mlynn1223

This is long, just a warning...

Vent - I have two #1:  I needed a final number for the RD last Thursday so I was texting with my cousin since she is a BM and still had not told me.  She will not be at the rehearsal or RD which really effing pisses me off but whatever.  She proceeds to ask me where her boyfriend is sitting.  We were still working on the chart so I told her I did not know.  She asked that he sit with her parents and then proceeded to tell me to be nice to him and not send her nasty texts.  I had simply stated that day of the wedding he would have the car and be able to do his own thing since she would be busy all day.  That was it, no big deal.  She tells me "he is a big boy and can handle himself."  He is my age (27) so I would hope so.  The next day I send her a text letting her know that he would be at a table with my family, another guy who has an MBA and is also an engineer and my cousins who are his same age.  I did not want to but FI did so I listened to him.  She said since it is my wedding I can do whatever I feel is best even though she thinks he would be better with her parents.  

Vent #2 - That day (Friday) was our final meeting with the venue.  When we are done I have a voicemail from my uncle asking me to call.  This is the same family who was going to miss our wedding because of a possible baseball game.  As of last Friday they still had not told me who was going to be there, that was a week before the wedding.  So I call my uncle back, he proceeds to tell me that if they cannot sit as a family then they will not be staying for dinner.  I asked him who was coming because nobody told me.  He says they will all be there and goes on about how a wedding is a family event and he will not stay if he cannot sit with his whole family.  I told him I am doing the best I can but the tables only hold so many.  He then tells me that he wants his own table.  I explain that it would be expensive for me to do that and I am already paying over $70 per plate that I again would see what I could do.  I of course call my mom and tell her what is going on.  My uncle (her brother) then calls my mom maybe 30 minutes later acting like nothing the phone call did not occur and tells my mom that my other aunt and uncle will be there and "we all have to sit together."  My mom, without telling him that she talked to me explained that I am doing the best I can.  My mom does not think he will leave.  I still don't know.  I still have not called him nor am I going to.  If he wants to look like the ass and leave because his 22 year old son, 18 year old son and 25 year old daughters boyfriend cannot sit with other people then eff him and his family they can leave.  

So to my confession - I'm very hurt that they would even think to do that!!  My step brother (17 years old) and sister (20 years old) will be sitting at a different table to because there is not room at the parents table.  We have friends coming in from out of town who know NOBODY else and will be sitting with others.  I put the seating chart together the best I could and tried to keep families together the best I could.  Ultimately it is a wedding, the joining of TWO families, MINGLE!!!  I'm hurt, sad, frustrated, angry, and a few other emotions that I cannot even place.  At this point though I am trying not to care because it will NOT ruin our day.  If he wants to be an ass then so be it.  

A word of wisdom, do NOT share your seating chart with others, under NO circumstance.  Someone will not be happy.  Other then that little piece of drama, the other piece with my FMIL has been resolved she is fine.  My sister still has not told me if my niece is coming which is a little frustrating but I am hoping to find out tomorrow at the rehearsal and dinner.  

Sorry it was so long.  I feel better though

StephLove12

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/vents 6/6 : When is your wedding date again? I'm real annoyed with Pat and I can't figure out certain things that I sort of NEED to know! Last time I was there she was talking about how the Kitchen was "open" but not "done" and I have NO CLUE what that means?! I guess I now need to verify that there isn't another event the week before my wedding to verify I will indeed get the time I need to set up?! Ugh.
Posted by entropicbeauty[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>Ditto, also. Its hard to get mad at Pat, since she is a volunteer... but at the same time I'm paying, and I would love to actually get some answers when I ask. :-\</div>

aloisk57

No vents for me.

Confession:  Well, not much of one.  I am totally unmotivated to do anything.  I sit here on The Knot but I have not done any actual planning in like 2 months.  I feel bad when my parents and friends ask me what new stuff I've done I'm like....nothing.  Oh well, I guess I still have 5 months.  I just feel like it's going to fly by.

AmyNoelle

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_confessionsvents-66-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:9890aeeb-e3e1-4fa1-b2f4-64f57a4225e6Post:2f60074a-55c9-4738-bb64-b1c4c7636890">Re: Confessions/vents 6/6</a>:
[QUOTE]This is long, just a warning... Vent - I have two #1:  I needed a final number for the RD last Thursday so I was texting with my cousin since she is a BM and still had not told me.  She will not be at the rehearsal or RD which really effing pisses me off but whatever.  She proceeds to ask me where her boyfriend is sitting.  We were still working on the chart so I told her I did not know.  She asked that he sit with her parents and then proceeded to tell me to be nice to him and not send her nasty texts.  I had simply stated that day of the wedding he would have the car and be able to do his own thing since she would be busy all day.  That was it, no big deal.  She tells me "he is a big boy and can handle himself."  He is my age (27) so I would hope so.  The next day I send her a text letting her know that he would be at a table with my family, another guy who has an MBA and is also an engineer and my cousins who are his same age.  I did not want to but FI did so I listened to him.  She said since it is my wedding I can do whatever I feel is best even though she thinks he would be better with her parents.   Vent #2 - That day (Friday) was our final meeting with the venue.  When we are done I have a voicemail from my uncle asking me to call.  This is the same family who was going to miss our wedding because of a possible baseball game.  As of last Friday they still had not told me who was going to be there, that was a week before the wedding.  So I call my uncle back, he proceeds to tell me that if they cannot sit as a family then they will not be staying for dinner.  I asked him who was coming because nobody told me.  He says they will all be there and goes on about how a wedding is a family event and he will not stay if he cannot sit with his whole family.  I told him I am doing the best I can but the tables only hold so many.  He then tells me that he wants his own table.  I explain that it would be expensive for me to do that and I am already paying over $70 per plate that I again would see what I could do.  I of course call my mom and tell her what is going on.  My uncle (her brother) then calls my mom maybe 30 minutes later acting like nothing the phone call did not occur and tells my mom that my other aunt and uncle will be there and "we all have to sit together."  My mom, without telling him that she talked to me explained that I am doing the best I can.  My mom does not think he will leave.  I still don't know.  I still have not called him nor am I going to.  If he wants to look like the ass and leave because his 22 year old son, 18 year old son and 25 year old daughters boyfriend cannot sit with other people then eff him and his family they can leave.   So to my confession - I'm very hurt that they would even think to do that!!  My step brother (17 years old) and sister (20 years old) will be sitting at a different table to because there is not room at the parents table.  We have friends coming in from out of town who know NOBODY else and will be sitting with others.  I put the seating chart together the best I could and tried to keep families together the best I could.  Ultimately it is a wedding, the joining of TWO families, MINGLE!!!  I'm hurt, sad, frustrated, angry, and a few other emotions that I cannot even place.  At this point though I am trying not to care because it will NOT ruin our day.  If he wants to be an ass then so be it.   A word of wisdom, do NOT share your seating chart with others, under NO circumstance.  Someone will not be happy.  Other then that little piece of drama, the other piece with my FMIL has been resolved she is fine.  My sister still has not told me if my niece is coming which is a little frustrating but I am hoping to find out tomorrow at the rehearsal and dinner.   Sorry it was so long.  I feel better though :)
Posted by mlynn1223[/QUOTE]

Yikes, what a bummer that you have to deal with such family drama!  I can't believe people can be like that.  Can't they just have ONE day that's not all about them!!????  I mean, it's not about you people!  What is so difficult to understand??  Wow, that blows my mind that an adult can't cope with not sitting with every member of his family.  You should've just told him they were sitting together than on the day of the wedding when he sees they're not, say, whoops!  I guess someone did the seating chart wrong!  Oh well!  See ya later, I have to go be the bride now! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

Hang in there.  In the end everything will be perfect and the small details won't make a difference becase you'll be marrying your soulmate!

sopraffina

You might remind your uncle that the seating chart only applies during dinner, for maybe an hour? Then people usually sit wherever they want.

I can't believe people put brides through this! Just tell him you don't negotiate with terrorists.

mlynn1223

You two ladies crack me up!!  I did try to tell him it was just for dinner but he did not care.  Oh well, his loss!  We are having some amazing food that they will completely miss out on.  I'm trying to take the positive side here.  Just glad it is almost here and things can get back to normal; which for them means talking at Christmas.  Gotta love families!  

sparkles776

mlynn so sorry you are dealing with all that drama, your day is still going to be amazing! Thanks for the advice, I will definitely have to remember that!