I was lurking on the E board and someone asked if it would be rude to have a small cake for the ceremonial cutting, but not provide cake as a dessert, but rather have a cheesecake in a martini glass bar. The consensus was that it would be rude to eat something that you would not be providing to all of the guests. I guess I just don't see taking a small bite of a cake as really eating something that I'm not providing guests. Although I've taken away a lot of very valuable advice from the E board - I do think they overthink things sometimes. I was wondering if this is one of those times.
Probably the main point of this post is that I was thinking of doing something similar. We are really trying to celebrate Detroit and we are doing Detroit themed foodstations: Corktown, Hamtramck, Mexicantown and Greektown. We are serving Faygo pop and for dessert we were going to have Vernors ice cream float shooters, mini bumpycakes, and Sanders cream puffs. I also wanted a small cake for the cake cutting ceremony. Is it really that much of a breach of etiquette as the E board claims??