Registry and invitations?

minarayne

Hi ladies!  I hope everyone's having an awesome weekend...especially since it's such a beautiful day outside.  : )

I was hoping I could get some of your opinions on somethin'.  My fiance and I were talking about where we'd like to register today, and the subject came up of how to let people know once we decide.  The Bridal Bargains book that I purchased says that putting any kind of registry announcement in the invitations is tacky and totally not cool.  However, I've received plenty of invites in the past that had little registry cards in them, and it never seemed presumptuos to me.  In fact, I've found it to be quite helpful, saving a phone call.  Originally, we were planning on mentioning the registry along with our invitations, but now I'm self-conscious about coming off as rude. 

I'd definitely like to hear some of your thoughts on this.  What's the best way to approach sharing registry info?

Thanks, guys!  and happy Sunday! : )

boogerbearoriginal

It is a faux pas to include registry info in the wedding invite since the guest is not required to bring a gift to the wedding.  However, it is completely appropriate to include information with shower invitations as the whole purpose of the shower is gift giving.

I would include that information with the shower invites only. Word of mouth via parents, etc will take care of getting the information out.  If you plan on creating an informational website for your guests you can include it there too.

FWIW at our wedding we mostly recieved cash and very few actual gifts.

gailpete

Ditto PP.  It is rude to include registry information in the invitation.  Word of mouth and putting it on your website are the best ways to let people know.

Also, most people these days are internet savvy enough that they can just go to the websites of the most likely stores (Macy's, Younkers, Kohls, Target, Bed, Bath & Beyond) and search for your name.

emily1004

My wedding planner told me not to put these in any invitations. Including your bridal shower. If people want to know where you're registered they will ask. It is acceptable to put it on your website however.

abbeylynne06

It's fine to put them in a bridal shower invitaiton.  After all, that's what a shower is for... to "shower" the couple with gifts.  However, registry information should not be included in a wedding invitation.  Websites and such are fine, but not in the invitation itself.  If someone wants to know, they can find out by looking it up online or just asking around.

corinne2010

Ditto pp. It's rude to put your registry info on the actual wedding invite. Guests are not required to bring you a gift, so that just sound like you're being more gift grabby than helpful. For the shower invites, it is appropriate to put on there where you are registered because that's the whole point.

minarayne

Thank you SOOO much for the feedback!  I could have unknowingly made myself look pretty bad.  How embarassing would it be for people to think that I'm impolite or greedy!?! Yikes! Everyone was basically in agreement with what I had noticed in the book, but I trust honest real-world opinions much more.  Incorporating it in a wedding website sounds like a good idea.  I've been meaning to find time to sit down and create one anyway.  I'm kind of relieved that it's not the norm to put in those pre-made store registry cards, cuz it seems like they'd take away from the cohesive design of the invitations/response cards.

Thanks again!