Where to begin? I possibly have the world's worst MOH! So my MOH is my sister, my one and only sibling, you would think she would be happy that her younger sister is about to get married right? WRONG!
Granted my sister and I have never truly gotten along. But, I had hoped that by making her my MOH, it would bring us closer together and possibly start a new, friendly, relationship for us. Boy was I wrong. From day one, all she wanted to know was "who is paying for this?" When we picked out dresses for my bridesmaids, she threw a hissy fit (yes my thirty something year old big sis threw a hissy fit) about paying for her dress so I ended up paying for it.
She asked what MOH's duties were since she has never been one, and I told her plan the shower, bachelorette party & help me out with odds and ends. She then asked how she would plan all of this, and I said you can Google whatever you want & research it.
Long story short, she hasn't planned a thing!!! Luckily one of my bridesmaids offered to plan my bachelorette party for me. But it's now less than a month away and I have no shower planned because of course my MOH wants to know who's going to pay for the shower? Apparently it won't be her!!! She still hasn't given me any ideas, themes, or asked me anything about my shower besides who's going to pay? So I'm going to somehow plan my own shower... KILL ME!!!!!!!
I want to tell her what I think of her, but my parents would probably kill me.
Re: MOH Rant
If no one offers to throw parties, you do without. You don't plan your own shower. Also, you shouldn't have expected her to change...if you weren't close to her, why did you ask her to be your MOH?
That's just what I've learned on the etiquette board.
my sister and I arent so close, so I chose a really good friend to be my MOH instead. It was a really good decision for me...
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[QUOTE]I'm sorry that you're dealing with this...while I aggree with some of the PP, I think it brings the "getting married" feeling alive having these symbolic things that most brides get to have. I know I would be hurt if a shower wasn't planned for me so I know your hurt, especiall beasue your MOH is your sister and you would want her to care enough, as my MOH's are my sisters also. Sorry for the hurt this is causing you. I hope you have a great time at your bachelorette party!!
Posted by inhisname2010[/QUOTE]
this exactly. I say F ettiquette. I'd be heartbroken. Its not about getting gifts. Its about having the full experience and not feeling cheated. Call me a selfish brat, but I would feel cheated. I'm sorry you're experiencing that. Enjoy your B-party and really relish your wedding. Although these things are part of the experience to me also, the big day is really the one that matters.