I know my wedding isn't until next year, but it's been so stressful lately.
My fiancee' has been very ill. They just diagnosed him with severe fibromyalgia, and it's more likely for him not to even be able to get out of bed, then to do anything else. He had to take a leave from work, and we have no idea how long it will be until he is "normal" again.
That's left most of everything, including the wedding planning up to me. So I started early, and have been doing a lot of DIY just to be able to get the necessary stuff done early, and without putting so much off until the last minute.
We found a lovely venue, and I "built" most of my wedding around the location. Our theme, and decor, etc. Well, the manager we were working with took off with our money, and I'm sure others too, and since then I have had to deal with them denying us what we contracted for, and adding many things on, including fees that we were never told about, and changing our timeline, including not allowing us in early to decorate, which leaves me in a lurch, because I have to either give it up, or try to come up with even more money to pay someone to decorate.
We finally decided to change our venue. We just aren't comfortable staying, and have serious trust issues with that place, but our new venue doesn't have our date available, and we can't bring in much of what I made for the other place. They only allow their linens, etc.
So, it's like starting over. A new image, a new plan, a new look, and a new date. Plus he isn't any better, and I am just really tired.
And then, after making this decision, and moving on........the old venue calls today with new management and wants to make amends, and get us to return there. We already decided not to.....too much bad karma for us at this point, but I wish I would have known then, what I know now.
Oh, and a member of my bridal party is being difficult. She has five kids, and a busy schedule, and I get that, but she really pushed wanting to be in the wedding, and so I asked her. She is related, and I had family on my case about it. I don't have any issue with her lifestyle, (not my business, I get it), but when I called her to see if she was available on the new date, (Just asking), she yelled at me about how busy her kids were, and that it would conflict with her daughters soccer game, and that she would "show up and walk", but not to "expect her to do one more thing".....no rehearsal, etc. "Just put me in the middle of the lineup and I'll follow along." I never asked her anything except would it be ok with you if we had to change to this date, and are you available.
I had no other "expectations" of her anyway, but there was a part of me that wanted to ask if she really wanted to be in this wedding as it always seems like it's a huge imposition in her life, but it could just be that I'm tired, and taking it too personally. And no, I didn't say anything. Just thanked her and hung up.
Sorry for ranting, ladies. Just needed a place to say it. I hope the rest of you are having a good evening.
