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TMI Tuesday

A girl on my month board found out she was pregnant about 8 weeks before her wedding. Her and fi were going to try for a honeymoon baby so it isn't a big deal for them.

However, how would you honestly feel if you found out you were pregnant just weeks before your wedding?
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  • I don't plan on kids for another few years. But, whatever happens, happens. Weeks before wouldn't bother me. However, I know someone who got pregnant 8 months before her wedding. THAT would bother me. I don't know why, but after I spend a grand on a dress, I would be pretty upset if I knew it wouldn't fit me the day of. She ended up having to postpone it for the a few months after that. At 8 months pregnant, the last thing you want to do is run around being stressed about wedding stuff. 
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    As much as I want to have a big family, I would be disappointed if I were to get pregnent before we got married. FI and I don't live together yet, so I would like to have at least some alone time with him before our house is filled with babies!

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  • I'm with you vk! We didn't live together before marriage (well, technically we lived together when we did 4 months of volunteer work in San Antonio but we had roommates) and even though we had plenty of sleepovers, we didn't legit live together. So I really want to spend some "us" time being newlyweds. We'd love lots of kids someday but right now we're not ready -- we both work all day and take night classes. I don't want to put school on hold for kids right now because I know I'd have a hard time going back. 

    That being said, I would be somewhat bummed if I got pregnant before my wedding or even soon after. But, of course, I would be really excited too! 
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  • FI and I never want kids so I would be F***ing pissed that Mirana failed me.  

    That being said, for the sake of discussion, if we did want kids I would be disappointed that it happened before the wedding but 8 weeks isn't that big of a deal.  Most people aren't even showing at that point so you should fit just fine into the dress.  However, not being able to drink at the wedding would be a big bummer.  I think not getting to spend time as newlyweds would be just a big of a bummer.  I'm really looking forward to the first couple of years as newlyweds.  We have several trips overseas and around the US planned.  Having kids right away does not allow for things like that.  
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  • Honestly, I'd be pissed.  My FI and I want kids but not for at least 2-3 years.  I'd honestly be a little upset because there are so many things we want to do before we have kids and we're not ready to pay for the expenses associated with a kid as well.
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  • acaponi87acaponi87 member
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    I'd be upset. Yes we want babies and I would have it and love it and all that but I don't really want kids until we are a bit more settled. We want a house. I want a master's degree. I am excited that I am now at the point I wouldn't be showing in my dress if I was pregnant lol.
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  • I wouldn't have been happy. We don't want kids right away, I need at least another year or two to even get used to the idea of kids.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_tmi-tuesday-37?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:d22dfdac-3756-426a-9f5a-bb110a4025d1Post:27aa4568-9eb2-4e9f-9971-22b05c51c2c4">Re:TMI Tuesday</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'd be upset. Yes we want babies and I would have it and love it and all that but I don't really want kids until we are a bit more settled. We want a house. I want a master's degree.<strong> I am excited that I am now at the point I wouldn't be showing in my dress if I was pregnant lol.
    </strong>Posted by acaponi87[/QUOTE]

    BAHAHAHA OMG I wouldn't let him touch me for the longest reason because of this!!  I was/am terrified that I will get knocked up and be showing at the wedding.  I do not want kids for many years, so I would be suuuuuper pissed if I got pregnant.  We both want to travel way too much, and we want to be selfish while we're still young.  I have no desire to have kids for at least 5 years.
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  • I wouldn't be thrilled at the prospect, but I'd roll with it. It's not likely to happen though because I also have an IUD.

    If I do decide to have kids, I wouldn't want them for another 2ish years.

    Like PP said, I'd be PISSED if I were KU at my wedding and I couldn't drink.
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  • I pretty much agree with everyone else. I wouldnt be all that thrilled about it, it would probably be really hard to be running around 8 weeks before your wedding when you are newly pregnant and not feeling well, i would probably just want to sleep.
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  • FI and are still not sure we even want kids so, yeah, we would be unhappy.

    However, this is not a real possibility for us at all.  After we got engaged we took a vow of celibacy until we're married!  No, it has NOT been easy.
  • In Response to Re:TMI Tuesday:[QUOTE]FI and are still not sure we even want kids so, yeah, we would be unhappy.However, this is not a real possibility for us at all.nbsp; After we got engaged we took a vow of celibacy until we're married!nbsp; No, it has NOT been easy. Posted by
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    So did the girl on our month board..
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  • Well, kind of ironic that this is the topic of the day because last week I found out I was pregnant. I have endometriosis and from everything doctors have told me since I was 17 y/o is that I could not get pregnant. 

    They were wrong.

    FI and I both knew we wanted to have kids so this isn't a horrible thing at all. In fact, we are both SO excited. It's just thrown our wedding planning out the window. Now, we are going from having a 200 person wedding to a 30-40 person small ceremony/luncheon. And instead of it being in 2013, it'll most likely be sometime in 2012. Just not sure when or where. 
    I'm glad it happened now, when we have plenty of time to get out of our contracts then happening closer to the wedding. With how I've been feeling, I couldn't imagine getting in a dress and trying to pretend I feel fantastic.
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    [QUOTE]Well, kind of ironic that this is the topic of the day because last week I found out I was pregnant. I have endometriosis and from everything doctors have told me since I was 17 y/o is that I could not get pregnant.  They were wrong. FI and I both knew we wanted to have kids so this isn't a horrible thing at all. In fact, we are both SO excited. It's just thrown our wedding planning out the window. Now, we are going from having a 200 person wedding to a 30-40 person small ceremony/luncheon. And instead of it being in 2013, it'll most likely be sometime in 2012. Just not sure when or where.  I'm glad it happened now, when we have plenty of time to get out of our contracts then happening closer to the wedding. With how I've been feeling, I couldn't imagine getting in a dress and trying to pretend I feel fantastic.
    Posted by Klyn1983[/QUOTE]

    Well, congratulations Klyn!!  Sounds like a small miracle for you <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
  • Omg Kyln! That's wonderful! I was wondering based on your post earlier in the week if something like that had happened..congrats! Good luck with all the re-planning!
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    [QUOTE]Well, kind of ironic that this is the topic of the day because last week I found out I was pregnant. I have endometriosis and from everything doctors have told me since I was 17 y/o is that I could not get pregnant.  They were wrong. FI and I both knew we wanted to have kids so this isn't a horrible thing at all. In fact, we are both SO excited. It's just thrown our wedding planning out the window. Now, we are going from having a 200 person wedding to a 30-40 person small ceremony/luncheon. And instead of it being in 2013, it'll most likely be sometime in 2012. Just not sure when or where.  I'm glad it happened now, when we have plenty of time to get out of our contracts then happening closer to the wedding. With how I've been feeling, I couldn't imagine getting in a dress and trying to pretend I feel fantastic.
    Posted by Klyn1983[/QUOTE]

    I too have endrometrosis, but I have never been told that I couldn't get pregnant.  I have been on depo provera since 1996 and so far so good.

    However, if I were to find out that I was pregnant, I'd probably have a D/C and not say a word to anyone.  I know this sounds heartless, but because I am 51, there is a strong possibility of having a child with a birth defect (i.e. Down's Syndrome) or other major medical problems that it wouldn't be fair to me,  my FI or the child to bring them into the world.
  • My cousin is actually getting married in January, and just found out she is pregnant....she is due the week before her wedding....Im happy for her, but I just cannot imagine that being me. As soon as we got engaged I got back on the pill because I didnt want any suprises. We do want children...someday...but I want to have him for myself for a few years and travel and enjoy being married for awhile first.

    And congrats Kyln!
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  • Thank you ladies! :) It's definitely a blessing. 

    Phonecardlady~I had surgery for the endo when I was 18 and based on the scar tissue I was told that it'd be nothing short of a miracle to become pregnant. Most of the females in my family have it and quite a few have had to adopt or foster due to their infertility..I definitely thought that was the path I would wind up going down too. Heck, two years ago I was told to get a hysterectomy due to the pain! I'm so grateful I didn't.
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    [QUOTE]Thank you ladies! :) It's definitely a blessing.  Phonecardlady~I had surgery for the endo when I was 18 and based on the scar tissue I was told that it'd be nothing short of a miracle to become pregnant. Most of the females in my family have it and quite a few have had to adopt or foster due to their infertility..I definitely thought that was the path I would wind up going down too. Heck, two years ago I was told to get a hysterectomy due to the pain! I'm so grateful I didn't.
    Posted by Klyn1983[/QUOTE]

    A hysterectomy is the last thing on my mind - I'd rather go thru menoipause naturally.  My mom was 42 and her mom was 55 when they had hysterectomies and neither had gone thru the change yet.  Right now I am fighting with my insurance to cover my depo provera shots - only $300/yr but an average hysterectomy in MI is $14,000 - almost 47 years of shots.  I am trying to save the insurance company some money....and they say that Medicare is going broke - I wonder why?
  • Klyn - Congrats! 

    With endometriosis you can still get pregnant, just the odds of it happening drop significantly.  I can't think of the actual number off the top of my head but I've heard it happen to a number of people.
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