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Kita507

Hi everyone me and my FI have been talking about the wedding and what type of things we and he very private he don't want alot of people he also feel that we inviting all these,people and they won't show up and we paid for everything if,it was up to him we will be,at city hall

Kita507

I suggested we have at lest 90 guest any ideas

zantster

Have you and your FI sat down and made a budget yet?  Have you set a date?  Have you made a list of the people who must be there e.g. close family, friends, etc.?  Have you checked out the checklist and budgeter functions on TK?  They are awesome tools.  

Kita it appears to me that these questions can only be answered by you and your FI.  It would be difficult for others to offer advice on.  Maybe a close family member of friend who knows you both and the details could give advice.  Or if you hired a personal wedding planner they could help as well.

I think most people on this board can help once you have the nuts and bolts worked out.  But basic decisions like how big the wedding should be and where it should be must be worked out between you two.  Then once you two have those things locked down, other posters on here can give suggestions on more detailed things like whether you need a shuttle for the guests  based on your reception location.  Hope this helps.

Kita507

We have talked about all that he think people won't show up

zantster

Why would your FI think no one would come?  If the people you invite are happy for the both of you and are close friends and family then why wouldn't they come?  If you only have a few people who you think would care to come then only invite those people and get a smaller, less expensive place. 

Don't invite the people that you know don't really care one way or the other.  That's a waste of money in my opinion.  Instead, you and your FI could make a list together of the people you think would love to be invited.  Then make your plans and budget based on a combo of that and of course whatever you can afford. 

But if your FI is simply not comfortable with the idea of spending money on a wedding and reception then that's an issue that you two have to come to agreement on before any other planning can begin.  You said that you talked about a budget.  But if he's still not on board with inviting people then I'm not sure how you can have a firm budget.  Because if you have a fiance who is resistant to the planning it won't be a pleasant experience for you to feel like you're doing it all alone.

Kita507

Thanks he is ok with spending the money he just a little shy lol we talked and we picked a,date and budget

zantster

Great!  Glad things worked out.