Ready for the honeymoon....

Jacks2913

My shower is next Saturday and almost all of my FMIL's guests did not RSVP. Since my mom doesn't know them, my FMIL started to call and email. As soon as she did, almost all of them said they couldn't come. She got very upset because she atteneded all of their showers, weddings etc...Today she told me she wanted to take a few of them off the wedding guest list. I don't mind, I'm all for the free spaces on the guest list, however, I've already sent these women save the dates and they were all invited to the shower. I would be furious if I was invited to the shower and not the wedding. Now my question is, do I stick to proper wedding etiquette and keep them on the list or do I respect my FMIL's wishes and remove them. If it helps any, neither myself nor my FI know any of them....

acaponi87

I would keep them on the list. In the long run, it's your wedding and it will reflect on you. Just because you don't know them doesn't mean you should be rude to them. Just cross your fingers and hope that they don't come to the wedding.

chickadee52287

I agree with acopini, it would be one thing if you hadn't already sent out save the dates and invited them to the shower. But since all that has done, I think it would not be a good look for you even though FMIL is the one who wants to un-invite them. Those guests wont necessarily know that and will assume it's your decision

mommy2my3

I say keep them on the list. There are people invited to my wedding that neither FI or I know, but they are in FI's family. I would just send them invites, your FMIL might just be upset right now and once she calms down she might want them there after all. Good luck! I hope you have a wonderful shower!

Sue-n-Kevin

I agree, you keep them on the list. Your FMIL should know etiquette, and having sent the STD and shower invitations, you simply can't "un-invite" them to the wedding. Stick to your guns.

Jacks2913

Thanks guys!!!! I really did feel bad that she was upset, but I explained how it would be just plain rude to not invite them to the wedding. She was really understanding once I pled my case. I feel so much better too. I'm fairly confident the shower is more stressful than the wedding!!!